NEVER forget about your family ... No matter how busy you are.

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

We can all feel sometimes that we have been dealt a bad hand but sometimes compared to others we have it easy.

I know it wont go down too well on an escort forum but sometimes I wish guys would try harder with their wives before turning to a prossie.

That is why i think Digger did the right thing and left the forum to try again. My heart goes out to him and I hope it succeeds for him.

[lucy7]

I know it wont go down too well on an escort forum but sometimes I wish guys would try harder with their wives before turning to a prossie.

It goes down well with me!
We are a quick fix to a on going symptom, nothing more.

I love to help guys get their sex lives moving again.
Being the age I am and on my second marriage I do have experience at losing sex within a marriage, my first marriage.
As I have been there and had the T shirt you see, and can see things from a wives point of view.

It makes me so happy when I get a mail off someone who says that they have put in to practise things I have said may well work for kick starting it all again, and they are getting back on track in that department of their marriage.

Doing what we do is not just sex sex sex, we are counsellors as well many a time.

Lucy

[English Kate]

I know it wont go down too well on an escort forum but sometimes I wish guys would try harder with their wives before turning to a prossie.

It goes down well with me!
We are a quick fix to a on going symptom, nothing more.

I love to help guys get their sex lives moving again.
Being the age I am and on my second marriage I do have experience at losing sex within a marriage, my first marriage.
As I have been there and had the T shirt you see, and can see things from a wives point of view.

It makes me so happy when I get a mail off someone who says that they have put in to practise things I have said may well work for kick starting it all again, and they are getting back on track in that department of their marriage.

Doing what we do is not just sex sex sex, we are counsellors as well many a time.

Lucy

I agree too. I had a client last year who used to come up and see me from London. He had been single for years and lost his confidence totally. He told me after seeing me he was seeing the world in a totally different light and all of a sudden picking up on vibes from women he had not noticed before, in fact he never dreampt that anyone would be looking at him in that way. He then started seeing a lady he had told me about and said it was thanks to having met me, because I made him feel whole again (or something to that description). I know he wasn't married, but he did need to build up his confidence and I was able to help reassure him that he had not lost it.

I love that about our job. Does it bother me that I have not seen him again since? Absolutely not. I am really pleased for him and wish him well for the future. My work as they say... is done!

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

Nice one Kate. Its guys like that that make the job worthwhile I think too. Its not all about the sex sex sex - thank goodness. How many guys do we see in a day that do not want sex. The guys who do want the sex would never believe how many.

[Nick Meanswell]

Can I say that for me the thing I have gained most from this game is the self confidence in a woman's company, which had previously crippled me all my life, including within my marriage, and it is that lack of courage which probably made me a rotten lover in the marital bed.

Unfortunately I just can't see an opportunity to redress that balance. What I have the greatest difficulty with is that I am not sure that I want to be with my wife. In general terms we are good friends, but I don't feel any real physical desire for her, probably because of the verbal mudslinging that's gone on. I am a firm believer that things can be turned around, but it requires real effort and commitment on both parts. It's no good me deciding to do something about it if she is not equally committed.

I don't know if any of you are familiar with the Nanny McPhee films but there is a phrase she uses:

"When you need me, but you don't want me I will be here,
When you want me but you no longer need me then I must go"

I think in the case of people like me then it could be re-worded when applying to you girls as:
"When you need me and want me I will be here,
but when you no longer need me, my work will be done"

If any of you wise women have any advice on how I could turn things around I am all ears!

[davidseven]

The key is dialogue, and if only one of you is willing to join in that dialogue, then its a lost cause.
This is were a third party / therapist can help, acting as a buffer and removing the antagonism from direct questions.
Have you broached the possibility of professional guidance?

It takes two to tango.
It may be a flippant phrase, but in the context of a relationship, its the only thing that's relevant.
You both must want that change. Good luck.

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

The key is dialogue, and if only one of you is willing to join in that dialogue, then its a lost cause.
This is were a third party / therapist can help, acting as a buffer and removing the antagonism from direct questions.
Have you broached the possibility of professional guidance?

It takes two to tango.
It may be a flippant phrase, but in the context of a relationship, its the only thing that's relevant.
You both must want that change. Good luck.

Totally agree David ................. now there is a record ............... me agreeing with a guy.

I think professional help outside the marriage is required to get things back on an even keel but like David says it is a two way thing and won't work if only one is participating.

[Nick Meanswell]

Interesting... We had a bit of counselling, which resulted in the counsellor saying there's no hope, we better get a divorce, chiefly because of my wife insisting that it was OK to call me a prat in front of the children!

[DivineMissG]

Interesting... We had a bit of counselling, which resulted in the counsellor saying there's no hope, we better get a divorce, chiefly because of my wife insisting that it was OK to call me a prat in front of the children!

WOW... What that counsellor said is totally unethical!! Very, very bad counselling technique on her part.

[Nick Meanswell]

Interesting... We had a bit of counselling, which resulted in the counsellor saying there's no hope, we better get a divorce, chiefly because of my wife insisting that it was OK to call me a prat in front of the children!

WOW... What that counsellor said is totally unethical!! Very, very bad counselling technique on her part.

It get's better than that... I went separately to another counsellor on my own, and told her about the way my wife repeatedly undermined me, and she said she wasn't supposed to comment but...

So I'm not really sure of the value of counselling, if it's meant to help you patch things up!