NEVER forget about your family ... No matter how busy you are.

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

I know I must bore people with the way I go on about my family but they are the most precious things in my life. Many don't want children, me, I wanted four and had four ................ then got rid of the sperminator ............ no longer required.

Now, dont get me wrong ............ at some point I did love him ............ and knew I would never want to settle down with anyone else once we had split up .... but I'm too selfish in my ways ............ and many will say 'set in my ways too.'

Read the following passage today and had to share it with you.

If you havent told someone in your family today that you love them, what are you waiting for ...................

Here is the little passage I read :

A man came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find his 5-year old son ...waiting for him at the door.

SON: 'Daddy, may I ask you a question?'

DAD: 'Yeah sure, what it is?' replied the man.

SON: 'Daddy, how much do you make an hour?'

DAD: 'That's none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?' the man said angrily.

SON: 'I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?'

DAD: 'If you must know, I make $50 an hour.'

SON: 'Oh,' the little boy replied, with his head down.

SON: 'Daddy, may I please borrow $25?'

The father was furious, 'If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I don't work hard everyday for such childish frivolities.'

The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.

The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy's questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?

After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down, and started to think:

Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $25.00 and he really didn't ask for money very often The man went to the door of the little boy's room and opened the door.

'Are you asleep, son?' He asked.

'No daddy, I'm awake,' replied the boy.

'I've been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier' said the man. 'It's been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here's the $25 you asked for.'

The little boy sat straight up, smiling. 'Oh, thank you daddy!' he yelled. Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills.

The man saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again.

The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his father.

'Why do you want more money if you already have some?' the father grumbled.

'Because I didn't have enough, but now I do,' the little boy replied.

'Daddy, I have $50 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.'

The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and he begged for his forgiveness.

It's just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts. Do remember to share that $50 worth of your time with someone you love.

Ok, I'm a slush ............. part of my make up .............. love it or loathe it, its me.

[SassyAnn]

Thanks for that mum. Love you xxx

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

Aw shucks thanks Ann. TC xx

[SassyAnn]

Watch this - one of the 'Secrets' clips posted by teenagers on YouTube to share their stories with others.
You'll want to turn the music up.

[jayzee77]

that brought tears to my eyes, will look at anne post later, can't have the volume up at the mo!

[abcdef]

i am very guilty of putting my previous job before family ....... do i regret it ? no i dont

if i wanted to feed & clothe my son keep a roof over our heads yes that is the sacrifice very rare jobs are 9 - 5, i dont look back with regrets that i missed him growing up, it was a necessity as there was no way i was going to sit at home & sponge off the govt

sometimes we just dont have that luxury, my precious time with him was meeting him off the bus near my workplace on a sat afternoon after my shift had finished then going for lunch then shopping

[davidseven]

I agree with lolo, its never a black or white decision. I immersed myself in my career, I don't think to the detriment of my family. But I did sacrifice any chance of a personal life or family of my own during those years.
However, it did give me the security to downshift and to care for my parents later in life when they needed my help most.
So yes, I have personal regrets, but not for the ability Its given me to support them.

[digger1967a]

Watch this - one of the 'Secrets' clips posted by teenagers on YouTube to share their stories with others.
You'll want to turn the music up.

Wow. That is very moving. What a fab way to deliver such a sensitive message.
Will someone pass me some tissues, please.

[jayzee77]

I am finding it hard as I am looking to go back to work, and the thought of having someone else looking after my kids is hard. Having been a full time mum for 6+ yrs. I don't have family that can over childcare, due to illnesses and distance.
I admire people who have raised kids and worked fulltime, but i wanted to be with them for their early years, the worst bit will be when they are on school holidays, and we are both at work. I've been fortunate that DrC has earnt enough so I could be the full time mum.

[English Kate]

I am finding it hard as I am looking to go back to work, and the thought of having someone else looking after my kids is hard. Having been a full time mum for 6+ yrs. I don't have family that can over childcare, due to illnesses and distance.
I admire people who have raised kids and worked fulltime, but i wanted to be with them for their early years, the worst bit will be when they are on school holidays, and we are both at work. I've been fortunate that DrC has earnt enough so I could be the full time mum.

It's not easy. When my baby sister was little my Mum used to work the grave yard shift at Tesco so she could look after her during the day when she was pre-school. I went into a career that allowed me to be free during the School hols and most Teaching Assistants are Mum's too, as this allows them to be free when their children need them. Women generally tend to take jobs that allow them to still be Mum, be it part-time or tailored in some other way. This is one of the reasons why men earn so much more than Women generally.

I'm afraid my situation was the same as Lolo's and where she does not regret it, as she knows it was for the greater good I still do regret it and I still get pangs when I miss the child I had. My son was an adorable little boy and at times I saw him literally for half an hour a day.

I don't think anyone could begin to describe the love you feel for your child/children and even now with the hardships of being with a hormonal teenager I love every minute that we spend together. The last few days have been quite rough for me emotionally, but at least I got to spend it with my boy.