Assault support advice appreciated

[Katsuragi]

The need/obligation to try to prevent the assailant from repeating the crime was one of my first responses to her, if you knew her you'd understand why I'm not using the word "victim" here. I have suggested something called third party reporting and I've left it to her to make that decision. Nova70 have you noticed that you're reacting to me in the same way many people react to raped people; rejecting the substance of my testimony using a plethora of handy rationalisations? I don't hold it against you, actually I find it very interesting and almost as helpful as everyone else's contributions. It's not easy facing up to this and I welcome the input of anyone who feels inspired or compelled to contribute.

[Katsuragi]

Hi Sarah, what wording would you have expected to see? I was under the impression that merely stating "trigger warning" and specifying to whom it was directed would be sufficient. Explaining why the warning was necessary is synonymous with getting to the point isn't it? I'll happily change it to whatever you think would be best.

[guest]

Strange things do happen! Some things I'm curious about
 
1. You're a very literate pimp who writes like an author? 
2. I understand the trauma and all, but shouldn't you have encouraged her to report to police?
3. The rapist certainly took risk himself. Was there no CCTV at hotel?
4. My ‘sex worker.’ You gave an impression there are more than one sex worker working for you?
5. Shouldn't seeking a doctor for advice be more appropriate?

[Katsuragi]

1. Thanks but no I'm just the sort of punter who spends lots of money with one escort over a brief period and then spends lots of time saving up for it again. Hence why I don't use the correct terms or know about resources like the SAAFE forum which it turns out is exactly what I was after, thanks again Strawberryblonde.
2. Certainly and that was precisely my reaction but the discretion she employs prevents her from being able to do this, at least without third-party support, which I have also encouraged her to consider.
3. There must have been cameras all over the hotel and outside it; he must be relying on her reluctance to report. This is obviously a wider problem.
4. Then I did so inadvertently; I'm not a pimp. I meant it in the same way I might refer to my chiropodist or my spiritual advisor.
5. Like a GP? I hadn't considered that. Because of STIs or just for support services? I'm sure she's capable of doing that for herself though.

[Nova70]

Yes "guest" I'm curious too. Katsuragi my reaction to your posts has no similarity to how I may or may not react to someone who told me they had been raped. Sarah makes a very good point about your opening sentence "I'm obliged to provide a trigger warning" of course you can't provide any kind of effective warning because as you've told us the "victim" does not wish to report the incident therefore you can't betray her trust by revealing any relevant information such as locations or descriptions.

I'm suspicious of you because you've come to this forum claiming to be the deeply concerned client of a wg who has suffered a terrible assault and yet you felt compelled to let us know about your interest in Manga/Anime by using an avatar of a female character from those comics and cartoons, now if I had come here wishing to discuss such a serious matter I don't think letting everybody know about my other interests would be upper most in my thoughts especially if those interests included reading and watching comics and cartoons which are well known for depicting acts of sexual violence against women.

[Ana_X]

The character in the avitar is Misato Katsuragi from Neon Genesis Evangelion - and has never been raped in any of the animations.

The lady who has been assaulted should, if and when she feels up to it, report to the police ASAP and also seek support from her local GP for her mental and physical well being.

[Katsuragi]

I see what you're saying, so she can get prescribed anti-depressants if need be. I hope to be able to avert that but I recognise the limitations of what I can realistically be expected to achieve. Thanks for your help guys, it's been great to talk it over. Well, not exactly great; I meant helpful, really it's been horrible but through no fault of anyone here.

[Ana_X]

I see what you're saying, so she can get prescribed anti-depressants if need be. I hope to be able to avert that but I recognise the limitations of what I can realistically be expected to achieve. Thanks for your help guys, it's been great to talk it over. Well, not exactly great; I meant helpful, really it's been horrible but through no fault of anyone here.

No. So he can make an informed and educated diagnosis of anything she may be suffering from and set in place a treatment plan, moving forward from there. 

Why on earth would you want to avert ANYTHING to do with managing this woman's health? It's not your damn call to make.

You are a well intentioned punter, but do remember that's what you are. Not her care taker, not her lover nor a family member. It sounds like you're too involved with this woman which can only lead to complicated, messy and further unpleasant times.

[guest]

I try not to be picky with wordings. At first, Ithought you had a business connection with the girl. You tell us she is a regular working girl you see. She is traumatised after the incident and does not want to involve the police. Yet, she tells you the story

Not critizing you as funny connections do happen amongst people. In any case, the best thing I suggest is see her thoughts, and suggest her to see professionals like social workers, gp if need be

[Katsuragi]

Ana_X I meant I would want to try to avert her depression in the first place not the treatment of any which did occur but I can see why that misinterpretation would make a person get a bit sweary.

guest the thing is I happened to be the first client she saw after the incident and yeah it was a very intense experience and I think it's not unreasonable that this has evoked a human response. It may have been a scheduling coincidence but I also happen to be the sort of person who seems trustworthy and compassionate and it's true that I just want to do the right thing which clearly isn't the comedy knight in shining armour routine. To be on the safe side, I will do everything which has been suggested *and* I will make our time together whether alone or out somewhere the happiest most secure most life-affirming encounters I physically can *and* I will respect her professionalism.