What is your definition of being shy?

[English Kate]

God Kate, I hope I wasn't being coy. That makes me feel as though I was being artificial, which I wasn't.....but I was embarrassed. I think I do either spout nonsense or go into a rehearsed patter, otherwise I'll forget what to say. If I'm relaxed though, I can just concentrate on the voice and try and make them feel good.
I come from a very loud, gregarious family but I think I lost my confidence later in life. Bravado and making jokes was a coping mechanism, and I can be spikey - not intentionally. But when I had the opportunity ie. when I moved to Newcastle and started working from home I became a recluse and didn't meet anyone new for 10 years, except a neighbour who is now in his 80s... who looked out for me.
Hicky, I think I was probably being brash and making jokes when I met you - I didn't feel at all relaxed. It wasn't your fault though, it was just me being self-conscious.
Lolo, I know how you feel about chatting with friends and family on the phone! Mine get so exasperated with me... but each time I do finally speak to them, I can't get them off the phone quick enough.
Years ago, working in the City, I used to have to walk from my office to my boss's office, and I couldn't cross the floor he worked on as there were 100s of people there. So I used to walk through the basement - I did that for about 2 years before I managed to convince myself that everyone was working and no-one looking at me!
Kate, to me you seem so grounded, warm and confident. I'm always in awe that you know the right thing to say to people.

I've just looked up the meaning of coy, because that definitely wasn't what I meant about you Ann (as in being false). What I found was this...

Meaning of coy (adjective) modest; bashful; pretending shyness to attract; flirtatious; coquettish. Example Her coy manners attracted the man. ...

So... coy was the wrong word too lol. I think it has given me the right word though and I duly replace it with the word... 'Bashful'. See, I don't always get the words right, but thank you for saying that. It is nice to hear x

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Perhaps self preservation? modesty? Either way it is a shame, but we are complex creatures and none of us perfect.

You can tell I've had an energy drink being up at this time in the morning still. Just started to feel tired now and I had the drink hours ago!!!

Oh I saw some orange lucozade selling at half price yesterday in Sainsbury's, just in case you didn't know about it. You never bore me by the way xx

very true kate i think its a bit of self preservation & modesty, i remember the first forum i was on, u tried to help but used to get pm's saying no one likes a brainbox or someone who is right all the time

just got my orange luco supply in

[monty69]

Woohoo Lolo

A Lolo without energy just isnt a Lolo!!

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Woohoo Lolo

A Lolo without energy just isnt a Lolo!!

rofl

[SassyAnn]

I have an image of Lolo as Tigger, bouncing around singing "The wonderful thing about Lolos"!

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lol ann u should see me if my supply runs low, its a md dash to get me some incase my mood changes

[monty69]

Ha ha I too have this image of Lolo bouncing like Tigger

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bouncing on what though

[monty69]

Well I can think of something - best not bounce too high though!!!

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oh i wont maybe a bit of rocking back n forth too