Jayzee I think you are shy, Ann I don't think you are shy any more lol. I think shy was the wrong word to use on that occassion. I think you were being coy on the phone. Yes you were a little nervous and the nerves were getting you to blurt out things that I personally thought, wow that is a bit strange, but instead of being shy you were over emphasising the things that you like to do, which I guess made you feel more confident, because you know they have had good results?
You are very at one with your body, which I think is amazing, because I have never been with mine, although I am slowly getting there through Escorting.
You are good at putting others at ease (you have said this yourself) which is another quality that shy people tend not to have, as they are too busy trying to put themselves at ease. I have to admit I don't have a problem with that, as I love meeting new people.
You are happy in a crowd. I can see where you are coming with this, as in it makes you anonymous, but still very shy people would not be able to cope in this situation.
There were many other qualities that you have (good ones mind) that in my eyes far out weighed any other qualities that you have that might be considered shy. The photo shoot for example. Once we got into the swing of it, you were almost enjoying it (it looked like you were enjoying it) and you were thinking of poses yourself and putting that smoking sexy look on for me. Admittedly you don't appreciate all the pictures that I took, but that is not about being shy, that is about how you see your image of who you are and what you appreciate about the female form.
I kind of feel that even lolo is shyer than you lol. (seriously). As she lives a more insular life and prefers to meet people more one on one and hates going out in crowds.
Plus like me you tend to say what you think and suffer the consequences afterwards lol. A truely shy person would hesitate to say anything that might offend, as they would not want to upset anyone or stand out in the crowd, as being controversial. I think your sense of humour definitely over rides any feelings of shyness.
I'm glad you didn't feel shy with me anyway, as perhaps I was privilidged to see what others have to wait fo find, but I don't think they have to wait too long. Maybe you are changing as you grow older?
(21-07-2011, 07:48)Hicky Wrote: I think your own definition of being shy depends on your own insecurities - and we all have them even the most outwardly confident people.
But your perception of if other people are shy or not is very often misleading. Lots of people believe just because someone is quiet they are shy. For myself I noticed years ago that in meetings often the people who came across worst were those desperate to say something because silence embarrased them and often what they said came across as silly because they had not thought things through. But more than that I was later shown how being engaged (eye contact etc) but not saying anything allows other people to open up more and more and eventually get down to the root of what they were saying not the surface. Consequently I now often hold 10 minute conversations where I say no more than a dozen words, but being quiet certainly does not mean i am being shy or that i feel shy - far from it i feel in control. And that may be the nub of shyness - one only feels shy when one feels a lack of control of one's own place within a given situation.
Very perceptive Mr Haddock/Hicky. Although for me the blatant eye contact would lead me to believe that quiet person was not shy. Especially if they were not acting nervous with their body language (ie chewing nails) etc.
I wish I was able to do that too. I'm dreadful with silence. I do find it very unnerving and if I'm in a class and the tutor has asked a question and no one asnswers it, I do feel compelled to fill that void, even if I don't know the answer. I don't put that down to shyness though, more a matter of feeling sorry for the tutor and trying to help things along. The old empathy button kicks in.
We really are complex creatures aren't we.