Discounts and disconcerted punters

[SherriffStiffy]

I am glad to hear your a 'real' woman there Kate, but trust me, I know some blokes who struggle to operate a knife and fork! You could be screaming out "GOD, OH GOD, I AM COMING!" and they would be struggling to decide between calling an ambulance, or a HEARSE! LOL!
I do know some ladies who's only clue is a flushing neckline, and others who leave you NO DOUBT at all, as you get 'washed' out of the bed, and nearly everything in between!
But as I said, it is different in each relationship, isn't it?
I suppose I missed the point, that even you will react differently to different people, (sorry to cross thread) but you have even said there are some clients (Being kind to aged turn offs!) with whom you are not 'totally' honest.
So there you go.

[Hicky]

Quoting LOLO from the 'Is age important?' thread
"every woman's body & how they liked to be touched, is different"

So while we may think a Sex School is a good idea, you could only teach what 'works' for you. Part of the great joy of meeting new people is working out what works for both of you. Communication is the first thing to work out, I have known 'blokes' who would not even know why they were being given the coins from Kate! (We can be seriously stupid us blokes!) And I have known women (working and not) who 'fake', which while understandable for WGs, this is just stupid for a 'lover' as it gives out totally the wrong message! (Bloke 'thinks' "Oh I will do that again, it obviously worked!" = RELATIONSHIP DISASTER! (It certainly fucked my marriage up, took FOUR years for her to tell me she had 'faked' and another TEN till I could give her the pleasure she deserved!))
As for being a 'good' lover, being a diligent partner helps. As anything in life you can read up on the theory, but nothing beats the 'practical' work for learning what works in THAT PARTICULAR RELATIONSHIP. Try things, and talk about them, it is all good if you listen as well as talk! It takes a great deal of effort, from two people, to make a relationship work, and communication is the key, be it spoken, written or just touches, grunts and groans, communication is KING! So each of you can try something, and in a 'good' relationship you need fear no criticism, but be generous with the praise for 'a job well done'.
So that brings me to 'frequent shagger' or 'performance related' discounts. How are you going to measure the 'performance'? What is frequent? How much discount? I know some girls say rates are non-negotiable, but some give discount for 'regulars' BUT performance? What ever next!
I suppose it all comes back to the main point for me, it is all about what works for you! It is your body Ann, you should know it best, so go with whatever is right to you!
Or not, your choice.

*coughs* No they wouldn't with me as I am a good communicator and told the client exactly what the coins were for and how he could earn some. Then after every orgasm I told him he had earned another coin. It actually became quite erotic in itself.

Of course I made him work hard to earn them. I certainly was not going to give them away and I NEVER fake!

I can't help but feel this is remarkably similar to experiments with animals where, for example, squirrils are expected to find there way through a maze and solve numerous puzzles to get the prize of a nut.

Now of course most squirrils solve this sort of puzzle quickly and a rewarded with many nuts. But they have the advantage of a considerably greater attention span than then most of us men who become so easily distracted.

Personally i suspect the prospect of chocolate would not maintain my attention span - but Kate if you could have some bacon gently sizzling in the corner of the bedroom and dropped a crispy bit in my mouth when I had achieved the desired results I may focus somewhat better!

[Nick Meanswell]

Personally i suspect the prospect of chocolate would not maintain my attention span - but Kate if you could have some bacon gently sizzling in the corner of the bedroom and dropped a crispy bit in my mouth when I had achieved the desired results I may focus somewhat better!

Excellent idea - trouble is the bacon might end up burned. However I have an answer, some shops sell dried streaky bacon, which is yummy. I would certainly go for a strip of streaky in between efforts. The only thing is it's quite salty - would a salty tongue be unpleasant in certain places?

[English Kate]

Personally i suspect the prospect of chocolate would not maintain my attention span - but Kate if you could have some bacon gently sizzling in the corner of the bedroom and dropped a crispy bit in my mouth when I had achieved the desired results I may focus somewhat better!

Excellent idea - trouble is the bacon might end up burned. However I have an answer, some shops sell dried streaky bacon, which is yummy. I would certainly go for a strip of streaky in between efforts. The only thing is it's quite salty - would a salty tongue be unpleasant in certain places?

Salty full stop is not good lol. It can be tasted at both ends.


Sherriff, how was I dishonest to the chap? I kept my emotions and feelings to myself, but that does not mean I was dishonest. I certainly did not fake an orgasm for him and I did what he wanted and I was nice to him, as I would be with any guest. The fact that I felt uncomfortable sexually with him was not really for his consumption.

If he had out right asked me if I had enjoyed myself and I had said yes, it was great. Then I would have been telling porkies, but he did not.

[SherriffStiffy]

Sherriff, how was I dishonest to the chap? I kept my emotions and feelings to myself, but that does not mean I was dishonest. I certainly did not fake an orgasm for him and I did what he wanted and I was nice to him, as I would be with any guest. The fact that I felt uncomfortable sexually with him was not really for his consumption.

If he had out right asked me if I had enjoyed myself and I had said yes, it was great. Then I would have been telling porkies, but he did not.

I think you will find I said you were not "totally honest"!
I did not say you were dishonest. An omission is a lie in some people's eyes (and you seem a little defensive on the issue Kate) but it is not dishonest in the eyes of the Law. Now had you been under oath....?

[English Kate]

Sherriff, how was I dishonest to the chap? I kept my emotions and feelings to myself, but that does not mean I was dishonest. I certainly did not fake an orgasm for him and I did what he wanted and I was nice to him, as I would be with any guest. The fact that I felt uncomfortable sexually with him was not really for his consumption.

If he had out right asked me if I had enjoyed myself and I had said yes, it was great. Then I would have been telling porkies, but he did not.

I think you will find I said you were not "totally honest"!
I did not say you were dishonest. An omission is a lie in some people's eyes (and you seem a little defensive on the issue Kate) but it is not dishonest in the eyes of the Law. Now had you been under oath....?

Defensive perhaps, but due to the fact that I am a very honest person, as much as I can be. I can't tell my family that I am Escorting, so you could say that is dishonest, but I keep that secret for their sake not mine and the same in this situation. I don't like hurting people and that is the reason. If that makes me disreputable or dishonest, then I guess it's time to re-evaluate who I am and if I am doing it for the right reasons. What do you think?

[SherriffStiffy]

Defensive perhaps, but due to the fact that I am a very honest person, as much as I can be. I can't tell my family that I am Escorting, so you could say that is dishonest, but I keep that secret for their sake not mine and the same in this situation. I don't like hurting people and that is the reason. If that makes me disreputable or dishonest, then I guess it's time to re-evaluate who I am and if I am doing it for the right reasons. What do you think?

Chill Gorgeous, I never said you were dishonest, and I think everyone uses omissions everyday, others wise the 'honesty' would drive us all nuts! Call it being tactful if you prefer! I didn't mean to get your gander up, and I don't think keeping secrets is an issue either, I am on here after all! LOL. Just pointing out that no-one is TOTALLY HONEST, that is how we all get along.

[English Kate]

Defensive perhaps, but due to the fact that I am a very honest person, as much as I can be. I can't tell my family that I am Escorting, so you could say that is dishonest, but I keep that secret for their sake not mine and the same in this situation. I don't like hurting people and that is the reason. If that makes me disreputable or dishonest, then I guess it's time to re-evaluate who I am and if I am doing it for the right reasons. What do you think?

Chill Gorgeous, I never said you were dishonest, and I think everyone uses omissions everyday, others wise the 'honesty' would drive us all nuts! Call it being tactful if you prefer! I didn't mean to get your gander up, and I don't think keeping secrets is an issue either, I am on here after all! LOL. Just pointing out that no-one is TOTALLY HONEST, that is how we all get along.

You're right you probably hit a nerve, it's the one thing I hate about this job, having to keep secrets. I am naturally a very open and would you believe monogomous person, so I suppose it felt a little like my character was being put into question, but I guess you are talking about the 'working' me and not the 'real' me, as you have never met her.

I am going to try and chill, but sadly my diet does not allow red wine. What does a girl do to chill when she is only allowed protein and too busy to take bookings??? I likely need a good session lol.

[SherriffStiffy]

I am going to try and chill, but sadly my diet does not allow red wine. What does a girl do to chill when she is only allowed protein and too busy to take bookings??? I likely need a good session lol.

mmmmmm, I am sure you will 'come' up with something!

[Hicky]

"I am going to try and chill, but sadly my diet does not allow red wine. What does a girl do to chill when she is only allowed protein and too busy to take bookings??? "


I have something white and chilled at home which may satisfy you Kate should you want to pop round - and if you are lucky you can have some wine too!