08-01-2013, 19:18
(08-01-2013, 18:07)Ana_X Wrote: You're missing a key point about BDSM, suprisemyhusband - safe, sane and consensual play are key points everyone who cares about the D/s dynamic adheres to.
I recently had a request similar to yours from a woman who was also a service provider on adultwork. We chatted on skype about the ins and outs of what she was hoping would happen with her husband, she got nippy when I kept on saying he'd need to consent, she kept digging asking 'exactly' what I'd do with him in the dungeon. In the end it was just another jerkoff with a fake account wasting someone's time for their own benefit.
Ladies on both sides of this equation, do tread carefully with this one.
I agree Ana. Also, whilst a man may claim to have 'submissive tendencies', this can vary immensely from person to person. Each may have their own personal kinks, your husband may be aware of some of them, some may take time and exploration to develop.
Blackmail may NOT be his, he may not wish to be a slave. Do you have any idea what his pain threshold may be for example?
To me this is a complete minefield, would not be consensual and any hard limits would not be able to be discussed beforehand.
On the plus side, he is a lucky guy if you are happy to let him have freedom to explore his sub side. Good luck.