Can someone explain 'age play' to me please?

[kinkydirtybitch]

Without any obvious way of knowing the actual numbers, most (if not all) the guys who talk about the harder side of age play have absolutely no intention of carrying out the acts of which they speak.

Like most psychological topics, it's usually not as obvious as it appears and it is not necessarily about their inappropriately aged play partner, but about their own issues about their own sexual prowess, ego, esteem, self confidence etc.

Children have very different qualities to adults and tend to be less judgemental, more appreciative & it is said that those who play in this way are looking to explore a surprisingly innocuous side of the human psyche.

They may also be acting out or dealing with other issues - there are lots of reasons why we do lots of things; none of us are exempt from "sin"

[Classy_Katy]

When my partner and I do schoolgirl/teacher role plays for our own pleasure (as well as on AW), it's not about an older guy wanting a young girl...it's a dominance/submissive thing as it also involves spanking and caning...and it's also about being taken back to our first sexual experiences/fantasises, which involved schoolgirls and teachers. In the guy's mind he could be young again with someone of his own age. Someone really wanting a sexual experience with a child is not going to be satisfied by seeing a 45 year old dressed up as one...it's really what else it represents to them.

[Classy_Katy]

Also, most of the age play requests I receive involve the guy being younger. Many children have some kind of sexual experience in their formative years, whether it's abuse or simply observing something or having feelings that stay with them. As KDB said, it's "acting out" and something they could otherwise be paying a therapist to explore with them. It's not harmful and it's natural for us to explore our sexuality.

[Trinity-Belle]

none of us are exempt from "sin"

Amen to that.


I dunno... it does bother me. But I'm not sure how much it bothers me....

I think there are two arguments, presuming the guy has "p" leanings (which is probably not the case for most men)

On the one hand, acting these things out with a grown woman may satisfy his need and so actually prevent him from doing it in real life?

On the other, sexual association is very powerful and any of us who deal with role play and dominance/submission scenarios knows that the fantasy grows with time and it becomes harder and harder to satisfy. In which case, my worry might be that a guy might start out getting an escort or cam girl to dress up in schoolgirl uniform, but that the fantasy may grow and grow until one day it grows out of control and he does something that he really oughtn't have.

But - the three big dress-up outfits have got to be PVC, sexy secretary and school-girl - right? And all three of those are to do with dominance and submission.

My guy feeling is that for the vast majority of men, it is completely innocent and has nothing to do with any "p" leanings. But I worry that I might be somehow complicit in encouraging that tiny minority?

The more I think about this, the more I think that I might take school-girl off my list of stuff.

[Classy_Katy]

My partner and I have been role playing since we met 5 years ago and I've seen no change in him. I think it's really a case by case situation and that's how I deal with it...if a guy starts asking me about my own family or for a scenario that I don't feel comfortable with or otherwise creeps me out, I don't do it. The things that I fantasise about would be illegal and I wouldn't want them to happen to me or anyone else in real life...they are purely fantasies.

[Trinity-Belle]

Yea, for sure... and that is kind of how I have always thought of it...

...it is completely innocent and just a bit of fun.

Heaven knows, some of my regs have asked me to do dress up from time to time, and often each request will be different - they are just looking for something new and exciting... and a little bit naughty.

Naughty is definitely good in sexual terms.

I dunno... I really don't.

I've been doing this a long time, but I can only really think of one guy who really totally creeped me out because I thought there was something more sinister going on in the background, and that I was just a small part of a bigger fantasy for him. And that wasn't even anything to do with age-play or school uniforms or anything like that.

But I've never really felt comfortable with the school uniform thing.

I keep saying to others "only do what you are comfortable with". Perhaps I should just take my own advice!

[HORNN]

they are really lots of people with very sick fantasies, but, thats what makes the world go round, and sex sweet..!!!
***big cheesy grin on my face***

[daytimefun69]

Yes, it's the 'P' word under a more innocent name. Totally unacceptable, regardless of the name they try to sugar coat it as, in my opinion.

I thoroughly agree Annalise, and many of the ladies I have worked with over the last few years have exactly the same opinion as you; many have told me that what they thought was an offer of private fantasy fulfilment has led them into contact with obviously dangerous people (but with no real basis to involve the authorities).

Best avoided as I doubt the one perversion ('P') comes on its own (likely to be a danger to adults as well).

[kinkydirtybitch]

Not that we have any way of knowing this as a matter of fact of course...

[Classy_Katy]

I explained how it is for my partner above, and I'm sure he's not the only one. It's not always about sex with an under-age girl (or boy) per se, it can just be about re-experiencing fantasies from an earlier time when they were the same age.

We should do what we feel comfortable with...it's best not to judge what we don't understand and labeling someone a P is a bit strong. Just consider the ignorance of people in respect of the work that we do, and the condemnation we would receive from some. There would be people putting us in the same category.