In a similar vein to the thread started by simo22 I thought I'd start one for the ladies of the board, although I should point out that whilst I don't provide sex services I am still listed as an escort on AW.
First contact:
Introducing themselves to me in a polite and respectful way is of upmost importance. Whilst I deal with newbies often, and those need taught how to address and behave around a mistress, I do cut them some slack. If someone reporting to be a seasoned sub makes contact and this opening lines are something like "Hey gorgeous!/Hi hon - just saw your profile, god you're hot! You free for an incall today in half an hour" etc then they've no chance.
Displaying that they have read my profile in full:
For the most part people will skim profiles and selectively read the parts which interest them, and then let their imaginations take over and make up their own spiel. Not impressive. Noting that I enjoy giving watersports/bondage/enemas then asking if I'd allow them to do this to me, jesus, leaving out the all important factor that I am the MISTRESS and not a pro switch.
Reasonable understanding of BDSM:
"Hi, I want to book you for today - you can do what you want to me / I don't know what I want... just dominate me, ok? / Fetishes? Hard limits? I don't get you. Just tie me up and spank me!"
Not giving me any kind of reasonable information to start a session negotiation, or being demanding isn't making me want to jump out of my chair and pack the toy bag. Those who do tell me the things they are into, the things which they have experienced and enjoyed and also the things they would like to try are far more likely going to be given my time.
Good subs gone bad:
This is a major bug bear of mine. Those who introduced themselves well, impressed me with their knowledge, were respectful and polite and with whom I negociated the session out with - Only to, at the eleventh hour (or even worse, once they actually turn up) tell me they do seek relief.... but would like me to wank them off, that they do want to worship.... but their interest is doing so to my pussy/ass with their tongue, that they sincerely want to give themselves to me.... by fucking me (~or at least those which keep up the 'good sub' facade usually say "but I want to be your sex toy!"). Jesus Christ. NO. My body is not for sale, If you want sex go find yourself an escort.
Physical attributes:
A clients physical attributes mean nothing to me, in the slightest. I do not care how impressive you think your cock is, I don't care if you're under weight/over weight, bald/ have long flowing locks, if you're 20 or if you're 80. I am not attracted to clients, so if you're looking for a pro domme to fall in love with you look elsewhere. MY pleasure and arousal comes from putting others through their paces during a scene. From teaching those who come to see me how to please me by giving me their flesh to derive my pleasure by doing various things to them. So whilst Mr 23st, receding hair, only-three-teeth and fungal toenail infection may well be at the opposite end of the spectrum of what I look for in a man (incidentally, I have one), there is still a huge ammount of sexual energy flying around the dungeon as he does his best to please me and THAT is exciting. Mr gods gift to women is a total turn off.
Session Fees:
A month or so ago I had someone contact me via adultwork who seemed utterly genuine. He checked out my gallery, read everything about me and booked. We chatted it over and I accepted. On the day he turned up - late - and during the pre session consultation I asked for my fee. This is what he said
"I didn't check what the fee was before leaving, I forgot, So I brought the average that I've paid mistresses in the past. Hundred and ten, that ok?"
I responded
"Your first mistake right there is considering me 'average'. You haven't brought the correct fee so I won't be seeing you for the hour today. Instead, you can have half an hour, leave with your change and go buy some painkillers for the caning you're about to get."
Part of me thinks he thought his behaviour was acceptable and that he didn't see the harm in assuming there was an 'average' fee which I would fall into. The other part of me thinks he was a chancer who waited until the appointment to try to get a discount. Either way, I won't be seeing him again.
Anyway - there's my shortlist, and it's staying short as I could whittle on a while longer.
Any other ladies want to post about what makes you decide to see a client or not?
First contact:
Introducing themselves to me in a polite and respectful way is of upmost importance. Whilst I deal with newbies often, and those need taught how to address and behave around a mistress, I do cut them some slack. If someone reporting to be a seasoned sub makes contact and this opening lines are something like "Hey gorgeous!/Hi hon - just saw your profile, god you're hot! You free for an incall today in half an hour" etc then they've no chance.
Displaying that they have read my profile in full:
For the most part people will skim profiles and selectively read the parts which interest them, and then let their imaginations take over and make up their own spiel. Not impressive. Noting that I enjoy giving watersports/bondage/enemas then asking if I'd allow them to do this to me, jesus, leaving out the all important factor that I am the MISTRESS and not a pro switch.
Reasonable understanding of BDSM:
"Hi, I want to book you for today - you can do what you want to me / I don't know what I want... just dominate me, ok? / Fetishes? Hard limits? I don't get you. Just tie me up and spank me!"
Not giving me any kind of reasonable information to start a session negotiation, or being demanding isn't making me want to jump out of my chair and pack the toy bag. Those who do tell me the things they are into, the things which they have experienced and enjoyed and also the things they would like to try are far more likely going to be given my time.
Good subs gone bad:
This is a major bug bear of mine. Those who introduced themselves well, impressed me with their knowledge, were respectful and polite and with whom I negociated the session out with - Only to, at the eleventh hour (or even worse, once they actually turn up) tell me they do seek relief.... but would like me to wank them off, that they do want to worship.... but their interest is doing so to my pussy/ass with their tongue, that they sincerely want to give themselves to me.... by fucking me (~or at least those which keep up the 'good sub' facade usually say "but I want to be your sex toy!"). Jesus Christ. NO. My body is not for sale, If you want sex go find yourself an escort.
Physical attributes:
A clients physical attributes mean nothing to me, in the slightest. I do not care how impressive you think your cock is, I don't care if you're under weight/over weight, bald/ have long flowing locks, if you're 20 or if you're 80. I am not attracted to clients, so if you're looking for a pro domme to fall in love with you look elsewhere. MY pleasure and arousal comes from putting others through their paces during a scene. From teaching those who come to see me how to please me by giving me their flesh to derive my pleasure by doing various things to them. So whilst Mr 23st, receding hair, only-three-teeth and fungal toenail infection may well be at the opposite end of the spectrum of what I look for in a man (incidentally, I have one), there is still a huge ammount of sexual energy flying around the dungeon as he does his best to please me and THAT is exciting. Mr gods gift to women is a total turn off.
Session Fees:
A month or so ago I had someone contact me via adultwork who seemed utterly genuine. He checked out my gallery, read everything about me and booked. We chatted it over and I accepted. On the day he turned up - late - and during the pre session consultation I asked for my fee. This is what he said
"I didn't check what the fee was before leaving, I forgot, So I brought the average that I've paid mistresses in the past. Hundred and ten, that ok?"
I responded
"Your first mistake right there is considering me 'average'. You haven't brought the correct fee so I won't be seeing you for the hour today. Instead, you can have half an hour, leave with your change and go buy some painkillers for the caning you're about to get."
Part of me thinks he thought his behaviour was acceptable and that he didn't see the harm in assuming there was an 'average' fee which I would fall into. The other part of me thinks he was a chancer who waited until the appointment to try to get a discount. Either way, I won't be seeing him again.
Anyway - there's my shortlist, and it's staying short as I could whittle on a while longer.
Any other ladies want to post about what makes you decide to see a client or not?
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