Infatuation/Lust/Love - How do you differentiate?

[English Kate]

I love your honesty LL

Your words Buisness Transaction that is so true, that is all it can ever really be between a punter and a escort otherwise it can get a bit strange. I know a very nice young lady that has a great saying for punters who start to go a bit strange on her

She says "I will treat you like a king all the time you are paying for my services"
That to me is honesty and the truth
a lot of ladies will be really nice all the time you can pay for there services

I hope you're not implying that others on here are not honest about the way they work, feel and do things Freddo. Personally I am very honest and my thoughts on here are a true reflection as to the way I feel. It may not be as harsh or as gushing as others, but then neither am I.

[Freddo]

From actually reading your posts Kate, I would think you are very honest in what you say, I just think it is very easy to get carried away by the escort/punter relationship.

There are a lot of ladies out and about that do grow fond of there visitors, but it will always be a buisness relationship unless it is taken to another level.

I have no doubts that a lot of ladies are very honest in what they say and in how they act.


Just for an example a regular who visits a lady and the lady likes this regular a lot has fallen on hard times and cannot afford to pay the full fee what would a lady do.

I have never had this situation but it makes a interesting question as I would never contact a lady unless I could afford the fee

[English Kate]

That is a good analogy Freddo, but for me the money provides the line between client and Escort. I have to assume that all my clients are in some kind of relationship (it works best this way) and for me to not fall for any of them I create a mental block which is associated with the money. While that money is coming in there is a barrier between how I could feel about the person and how I will allow myself to feel about them. I have met many men that I feel would make good partners if things were different, but I just won't take that step to find out and it is the money that allows me to stay strong on this one.

How much? Well with this one I use the fairness point. It's not fair that I would charge one person £140 for an hour and another £50 for the same time and service. There is also the fact that if I were to see a client and not charge at all, then am I then consenting to a sexual relationship with a man who is already in a relationship and becoming his mistress? I certainly don't want that and it totally changes the dynamics. If his partner were to find out he had seen a WG there is a chance of forgiveness, but if she found out he had a Mistress, then she is going to be far more hurt and I don't want to be part of that.

Finally, Escorting is also for many of us our main if not only income and like it or not, at a time of recession no one can afford to be giving away their goods for free, but I bet you if the lady is fond of the client she will not be a clock watcher and isn't that in its own way giving something a little extra? Showing appreciation?

Even when you're in a relationship with someone you sometimes have to curb the things you enjoy doing together if they cost money and you don't have enough. The same applies here.

[Freddo]

That is a good analogy Freddo, but for me the money provides the line between client and Escort. I have to assume that all my clients are in some kind of relationship (it works best this way) and for me to not fall for any of them I create a mental block which is associated with the money. While that money is coming in there is a barrier between how I could feel about the person and how I will allow myself to feel about them. I have met many men that I feel would make good partners if things were different, but I just won't take that step to find out and it is the money that allows me to stay strong on this one.

How much? Well with this one I use the fairness point. It's not fair that I would charge one person £140 for an hour and another £50 for the same time and service. There is also the fact that if I were to see a client and not charge at all, then am I then consenting to a sexual relationship with a man who is already in a relationship and becoming his mistress? I certainly don't want that and it totally changes the dynamics. If his partner were to find out he had seen a WG there is a chance of forgiveness, but if she found out he had a Mistress, then she is going to be far more hurt and I don't want to be part of that.

Finally, Escorting is also for many of us our main if not only income and like it or not, at a time of recession no one can afford to be giving away their goods for free, but I bet you if the lady is fond of the client she will not be a clock watcher and isn't that in its own way giving something a little extra? Showing appreciation?

Even when you're in a relationship with someone you sometimes have to curb the things you enjoy doing together if they cost money and you don't have enough. The same applies here.

Thank you for a very honest answer Kate.

I never had any doubts that you would answer honestly and from the heart xxx

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

He He!! I think it was my bluntness and business sense that Freddo was picking up on. You know what I'm like Kate !!

[English Kate]

Yes you need your bottom smacking Miss Lusty pants!!!!!

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

Better watch Kate ................ I quite like that !! And there is nowt wrong with being blunt/honest and having a good business head.

[English Kate]

It's not just about business though, we are living breathing human beings with feelings and we need those boundaries to keep us sane. You have to agree to that? some people are better than keeping to their boundaries than others, that's the only difference really.

[lucy7]

I have just blogged about this on my AW profile.
If anyone can be bothered to click through and read some of my ramblings as to how I have been feeling after meeting up with two of my regs last week.
The old bird is getting soft in her old age!

Lucy

[DivineMissG]

For me, personally...

LUST = An animalistic urge to get down and dirty!
INFATUATION = A bit of an obsession, generally occurring after lust.
LOVE = Long lasting, unconditional, mutual understanding and respect, includes many lustful moments, but also many sweet, sensual moments... You feel as though you belong together - but you are your own person also... Independence vs co-dependence... Absence generally makes the heart grow fonder (definitely has done with mine!)... With the other two I would assume the opposite.

I could go on, and on, and on about love. But that's enough.