Infatuation/Lust/Love - How do you differentiate?

[Freddo]

It's not just about business though, we are living breathing human beings with feelings and we need those boundaries to keep us sane. You have to agree to that? some people are better than keeping to their boundaries than others, that's the only difference really.

Of course I agree kate, I have tried to visit a few ladies over the years as often as I can due to how well we got on, on the bookings of course it could have been a bit of lust or infactuation

But I would have never crossed a line it was buisness

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

It's not just about business though, we are living breathing human beings with feelings and we need those boundaries to keep us sane. You have to agree to that? some people are better than keeping to their boundaries than others, that's the only difference really.

We may see it a little different Kate, but for me IT IS ABOUT BUSINESS. Irrespective if I am a human being or not (I am just in case you are wondering). Once you put a barrier up then it is up and should remain there, it is only a weak person that allows it to come down.

Don't get me wrong, I have had some lovely, young, handsome guys visit me and oh yes it would easy (if I was a weak minded person) to think differently ............... but I don't................. business is business. End of.

If guy returns then we have another good time, if not, nothing lost.

[English Kate]

I don't have a problem with the married ones Lady Lust, it's the single ones that sometimes get to me. I've been single over a decade and sometimes a little tlc can turn my head and make me wonder what it would be like, but I really don't want to date while I'm working and I'm not ready to stop yet, so the situation dictates the outcome for me. Not all clients are married or in relationships.

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

Kate, when it comes to being on your own, 10 years is a light weight, ROFL. I was on my own bringing up 4 children for the first ten years then for the next 10 years I decided just to enjoy myself. No permanent guy required. I've been on my own for 21 years now.

When it comes to clients, just think of them ALL as married and it may take away any thoughts of taking it any further. The way I see it is, if they have to pay for sex and cant get it anywhere else for free, there must be a reason for that, and for that reason alone, I would not want to get involved with them.

Also, clients can tell you they are not married even when they are. Its no skin off our noses really what they tell us, but if you take them on face value by believing them you could be letting yourself in for a very large fall.

Don't mean to sound mean and critical but it is just the way it is with life.

TC x

[davidseven]

Kate, when it comes to being on your own, 10 years is a light weight, ROFL. I was on my own bringing up 4 children for the first ten years then for the next 10 years I decided just to enjoy myself. No permanent guy required. I've been on my own for 21 years now.

When it comes to clients, just think of them ALL as married and it may take away any thoughts of taking it any further. The way I see it is, if they have to pay for sex and cant get it anywhere else for free, there must be a reason for that, and for that reason alone, I would not want to get involved with them.

Also, clients can tell you they are not married even when they are. Its no skin off our noses really what they tell us, but if you take them on face value by believing them you could be letting yourself in for a very large fall.

Don't mean to sound mean and critical but it is just the way it is with life.

TC x

I'll see your 21 years and raise you another 14 on top, you lightweight. LOL
Judgemental, much? There are plenty of legitimate reasons why single men would seek the company of escorts.
Chronic shyness, physical impairment or just too busy to do the dating shtick.
And there are plenty of men in later life who perhaps feel as untrusting of a woman's motive as you appear to be of some mens. Which is a sad reflection on our society perhaps

An altruistic or caring approach isn't necessarily a sign of weakness, even in P4P.
http://tlc-trust.org.uk/ http://www.outsiders.org.uk/

[English Kate]

I met a lovely single guy tonight, who is from Newcastle. He says that his work takes him all over the UK and he's b been single for a couple of years now, but isn't in a position to start dating, as he never knows where he will be tomorrow. He looked a bit like Gary Liniker and by God was he good at oral. I'd happily see him again and there was certainly nothing 'wrong' with him or 'sad', he's just not wanting to muck anyone about.

Some guys have very good reasons for seeing Escorts and not dating. I know another guy who is lovely and single. He had a very good and fulfilling relationship, but it came to an end through natural causes. He chose to to bring up his kids and concentrate on them and not look for someone else. I don't see anything weird or sad about that either. He's not wanting a relationship and he doesn't want to muck people about, to me that is something to be praised.

These are the kind of guys that could possibly slip through the net and become more meaningful, because bonds can be forged, but of course they come with their own set of problems and the odds are against you, but it is possible.

I'm sure there are many other reasons that are not sad that single guys use Escorts.

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

Kate, when it comes to being on your own, 10 years is a light weight, ROFL. I was on my own bringing up 4 children for the first ten years then for the next 10 years I decided just to enjoy myself. No permanent guy required. I've been on my own for 21 years now.

When it comes to clients, just think of them ALL as married and it may take away any thoughts of taking it any further. The way I see it is, if they have to pay for sex and cant get it anywhere else for free, there must be a reason for that, and for that reason alone, I would not want to get involved with them.

Also, clients can tell you they are not married even when they are. Its no skin off our noses really what they tell us, but if you take them on face value by believing them you could be letting yourself in for a very large fall.

Don't mean to sound mean and critical but it is just the way it is with life.

TC x

I'll see your 21 years and raise you another 14 on top, you lightweight. LOL
Judgemental, much? There are plenty of legitimate reasons why single men would seek the company of escorts.
Chronic shyness, physical impairment or just too busy to do the dating shtick.
And there are plenty of men in later life who perhaps feel as untrusting of a woman's motive as you appear to be of some mens. Which is a sad reflection on our society perhaps

An altruistic or caring approach isn't necessarily a sign of weakness, even in P4P.
http://tlc-trust.org.uk/ http://www.outsiders.org.uk/

You win on the 35 years David.

You state three reasons why a guy might see a prossie, the first being chronic shyness ............. well I wouldnt want to date him 'for real' as his may mean I have to prise a conversation out of him ....... and I dont want that, so I'll pass on that one.

The second one was some kind of physical impairment, many guys with PI have gone into relationships as 'normal people ........... so that doesnt mean he has to see a prossie, so I'll pass on that one too.

Thirdly was, he was 'too busy' ................. well who would want to go into a relationship with someone who is 'too busy'. If they cant find time for a social life they certainly aint gonna find time for a relationship .... so that one hits the bin too.

So I still stand by what I say, I wouldnt like to 'date' any of the guys who visit me, for one reason or another. Its just not a line I cross.

I met a lovely single guy tonight, who is from Newcastle. He says that his work takes him all over the UK and he's b been single for a couple of years now, but isn't in a position to start dating, as he never knows where he will be tomorrow. He looked a bit like Gary Liniker and by God was he good at oral. I'd happily see him again and there was certainly nothing 'wrong' with him or 'sad', he's just not wanting to muck anyone about.

Some guys have very good reasons for seeing Escorts and not dating. I know another guy who is lovely and single. He had a very good and fulfilling relationship, but it came to an end through natural causes. He chose to to bring up his kids and concentrate on them and not look for someone else. I don't see anything weird or sad about that either. He's not wanting a relationship and he doesn't want to muck people about, to me that is something to be praised.

These are the kind of guys that could possibly slip through the net and become more meaningful, because bonds can be forged, but of course they come with their own set of problems and the odds are against you, but it is possible.

I'm sure there are many other reasons that are not sad that single guys use Escorts.

This is another one I wouldnt want to date. If they don't know how/where their life is going there may be no time in his life for me so ............................ hasta luego.

Looks like I'm a fussy bitch ................................ hey nothing changes.

[English Kate]

I can see where you are coming from Linzi, although my lookalike footballer was already coming to the conclusion that he had to take more of a backseat with his work and is in the process of training someone up to manage the jobs that they do, so he can have more time for a relationship. Perhaps all he needs is the right woman to take that final step.

Mid 40s, solvent, own home, self employed and doing well. If I was a Newcastle lass I might be tempted.

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

I can see where you are coming from Linzi, although my lookalike footballer was already coming to the conclusion that he had to take more of a backseat with his work and is in the process of training someone up to manage the jobs that they do, so he can have more time for a relationship. Perhaps all he needs is the right woman to take that final step.

Mid 40s, solvent, own home, self employed and doing well. If I was a Newcastle lass I might be tempted.

Kate you forgot to mention that horrible Geordie accent. If you think the scottish accent is hard to understand, its not half as bad as a Geordie accent or for that matter a Scouse one .............. reminds me of fingernails being drawn down a blackboard. If anyone is old enough to remember that ..............

I'll still pass on that guy too .................. and having all those qualities doesnt always make them a good partner.