Frustration

[monty69]

not being selfish just being realistic, if i were in your position i would do exactly the same, she cant have it everyway, seems like she doesnt want the hassle of any children around her

You are nearly right - what she wants is the children round her when they behave, and are useful. There is a much younger daughter (not mine) that need looking after and my ex-wife likes a slave to do just that. Both my 2 have rebelled at different times and so they are not so popular as they used to be.

The biggest problem is that my ex-wife's mentality and her present husband's mentality are very much along the lines of we will do what we want and the kids can look after themselves. If it requires effort, then they are not interested. There is also the problem that they are sadly bloody thick too (horrible to say) and cannot work out what is wrong.