**I'm obliged to provide a trigger warning to any service providers reading this thread who may have had a similarly traumatic experience**
My sex worker was raped, had her belongings stolen and was badly beaten and left handcuffed to the bed inside a hotel room recently and I would really appreciate some advice on how to support her. I don't wish to disclose any further details nor to sensationalise what happened nor to be accused of politicising the issue and I'd appreciate it if others here would try to avoid this also. We have agreed that I won't raise the subject but that I am approachable if she does want to talk to me about it. Crucially her support network seems to be very limited due to the level of discretion she prefers so really her regulars are, I suspect, all she has to help her with this. My concern is the depression which apparently is likely may occur. I'm wondering whether anyone has any experience of, in similar circumstances, supporting their regular pay sex partner with things like dinner dates, shopping trips or even random play dates. This is a guess on my part and perhaps I'm wrong but I expect having people who know what happened to her with her in normal life doing normal fun stuff would meaningfully validate her experience as well as provide some healthy momentum to move on. As her casual employer I consider that I have a responsibility to pay a sex worker on time and in full, to consider the interests of her other clients, and most importantly that I have a responsibility to contribute to her general well-being. After all, I see a sex worker because she helps me to feel like a better human being so why should I not respond like one to what has happened? Does anyone else think this way? Does anyone agree that punters to some extent take on a moral responsibility for the well-being of escorts once they become established regulars? If she declines my offer of a jolly or three, what else can I do if she becomes depressed and refuses to access support services? Perhaps asking another escort to get in touch would be the best thing since they could also prompt or even coordinate other regulars. Your suggestions will be considered valuable, thank you.
My sex worker was raped, had her belongings stolen and was badly beaten and left handcuffed to the bed inside a hotel room recently and I would really appreciate some advice on how to support her. I don't wish to disclose any further details nor to sensationalise what happened nor to be accused of politicising the issue and I'd appreciate it if others here would try to avoid this also. We have agreed that I won't raise the subject but that I am approachable if she does want to talk to me about it. Crucially her support network seems to be very limited due to the level of discretion she prefers so really her regulars are, I suspect, all she has to help her with this. My concern is the depression which apparently is likely may occur. I'm wondering whether anyone has any experience of, in similar circumstances, supporting their regular pay sex partner with things like dinner dates, shopping trips or even random play dates. This is a guess on my part and perhaps I'm wrong but I expect having people who know what happened to her with her in normal life doing normal fun stuff would meaningfully validate her experience as well as provide some healthy momentum to move on. As her casual employer I consider that I have a responsibility to pay a sex worker on time and in full, to consider the interests of her other clients, and most importantly that I have a responsibility to contribute to her general well-being. After all, I see a sex worker because she helps me to feel like a better human being so why should I not respond like one to what has happened? Does anyone else think this way? Does anyone agree that punters to some extent take on a moral responsibility for the well-being of escorts once they become established regulars? If she declines my offer of a jolly or three, what else can I do if she becomes depressed and refuses to access support services? Perhaps asking another escort to get in touch would be the best thing since they could also prompt or even coordinate other regulars. Your suggestions will be considered valuable, thank you.
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