Timewasting

[MissEsoteric]

New to using escort services.

I explain a bit about myself, I am polite, I explain what I want to do, I read their profiles, I make a booking, half of them just give me 1 reply and never to be heard of again.

All I get is the hard shoulder.

I never thought having a fuck with no strings attached would be so difficult!!

I don't intend to patronize you, so will offer what is my honest opinion, based on not my experience and which constitutes only my opinion, the many experienced ladies on here may well have completely different ideas.


The one thing you have going for you in this situation is the fact you have at least realized there IS a problem here. Encountering persistent difficulties securing an appointment (in which to have a fuck, sans 'strings') on an escort site, consisting almost entirely of ladies adept, willing and experienced in the provision of this
very service, is an issue, if I were you, I would address swiftly,also!


From your OP, it would appear you have neither made an innate subtle shift in behaviour manifested while interacting in this areana nor have you consciously realised the need to this. Adapting your mindset/manner and conducting oneself in in an appropriate manner, sensitive to the environment within which you have chosen to interact, is imperative to ingratiating oneself successfully.


"I explain a bit about myself."


This is advisable IF done with common sense and a sensitivity to the volume of correspondence most ladies deal with on a daily basis, wads of which are the innane ramblings of folks indulging themselves with fanciful tales regailing an array of completely irrelevant information, forcing the lady into a default position of doubt and suspicion of motives, from the very first message.

Consider what information the lady you have chosen to request time with would wish to know or will be of se to her NOT what you feel like telling her for what ever reason.

* Name * Age * Profession * Ethnicity * Succinct few sentences conveying your reason for choosing the lady in question and what led you to this decision.


"I explain what I want to do."



The same principe applies as stated above. How you convey this in writing is definitive in the respone you're likely to receive.

AVOID:

* Long winded, descriptive, minute-by-minute accounts of the 'plans' you have for the hour(s)

* Rude language.

* Unneccessary crude references.

* Talk of your cock, its length, sha[e, width, if he winks or if you are the biggest stallion known to man.


Successful descriprion of 'what you want' are easy. Read the ladies profile, make sure she offers what you require, if so, great; simply write a a succinct, respectful 'bulletpoint' style articulation of the 'style' of the appointment you require referencing you have noted A,B,C is stated as being POSSIBLE, and you wish to seek clarification as to if this can be agreed. If seeking more specialist services eg BDSM simply say so, don't go into a monologue of how it will unfold.


"All I get is the hard shoulder."



Apply at least some of the above, take an honest look at how you have been communicating thus far and adapt accordingly. You may then avoid getting 'the hard shoulder' in favour of the joys of a 'soft pussy'!

This statement is an example of what I mean about your apparent inappropriate approach to the escorting exchange. There is a sense of entitlement in this and your post in general. There is no such thing as getting the 'cold shoulder' on an escort site: you either successfully acquire an agreed service from the provider of your choice or the service is simply not available to you at that time, for what ever reason. This is not a dating site and it is not personal, which is exactly why you must endeavour to represent yourself in a measured, 'clued-up' manner.


"Half of them just give me 1 reply and never to be heard of again."



As stated by a previous poster............what in god's green earth are you expecting will happen after GETTING 1 REPLY TO YOUR 1 INITIAL MESSAGE? You sent an enquiry; you got a response: now it's your turn! Based on your acquired response, either make a follow up correspondence based on the guideline et out in the ladies profile, by which to secure and arrange a fixed appointment or move on to the next lady if the response has been negative. What are you waiting for?


Take an honest look at your correspondence thus far, the replies ammassed and establish whether you have missed opportunities because you are waiting for an escort to simply 'fall on your lap out of the sky' (just because you have sent one email).......and trust me this is a service that would be reserved for regulars or charged as an extra