Doesn't Enjoy

[Trinity-Belle]

I think it's a brilliant idea & enforces what we don't have in our likes list which clearly are overlooked, hence this new feature

Yes, it is a brilliant idea... but only if it is done properly!

You are an intelligent, professional girl with a good reputation... I am sure you can see the difference between not saying you enjoy something and saying that you dislike something?

I notice that your "dislikes" list is very short indeed and you choose to put everything else down as a "like", including putting both the "at discretion" options as well as the not discretionary ones. So for YOU is probably does do exactly what you say. But we do not all do that... I choose to keep thinks off my "Enjoys" list, as I think a lot of girls do... but I don't necessarily want them to appear in my "Doesn't Enjoy" list.

If we all organised our profiles that way, putting everything except the stuff we absolutely will not do into our "enjoys" list, the search facility would become pretty useless because guys would find everyone all the time no mater what they searched for, unless they were looking for something very niche like Hardsports.

I feel as though I am being forced to add things to my "Enjoys" list, just to stop them appearing in my "Doesn't Enjoy" list.

And yes, I realise that the search facility works that way anyway, but not being found by someone who is searching for something specific is very different from having someone who has already found your profile and likes it enough to look in more detail, click on the "Doesn't Enjoy" tab and see "French Kissing" in the list! And the reason it is there? Because I have ticked the "At Discretion" option. What... should I tick both? Like you do?