Emotional detachment

[English Kate]

Can I put my perspective from the other side of the fence? It is very easy for guys to imagine that they are in love with a girl because lust is often confused with love in a guys eyes.

Personally I feel very protective towards the girls I meet. I hate to imagine them having anything other than good experiences. That's because I genuinely care about everyone I meet be they my clients in my professional world or escorts that I see in AW World.

I have to admit that on more than one occasion I have desperately wanted to have a closer friendship where I can feel free to email an escort I've met just to chat and check she's OK. I suppose I rather like those girls who display a vulnerability in their blogs, not so that I can exploit it, but so that I can offer friendly support - does that present a threat to the emotional detachment?

I think it depends on how far you delve. I have one client who now calls me by my birth name, he even did it while we were on the bed together after a bit of a steamy session and it made my ears prick up, it felt a bit weird, but in all honesty he knows me so well now, it didn't feel wrong. Thankfully he is not at all insecure or needy and I don't feel like either of us will cross the line, as neither of us really wants to step over, but in the mean time we have a most glorious friendship blossoming.

I think the problems arise when the client is needy and harbouring plans for the furture, despite saying the opposite. Perhaps it is better to clear the air and be honest and then things can either be nipped in the bud or sorted out.