Advice wanted, please don't judge me

[grendel1]

No, I do not want a freebie, nor take advantage that's not who I am, I just asked for honest answers, and that's what I got. I said I didn't want to offend, well it appears I have been more than a bit offensive. I thank you all for the feeback, that's why I came to you. Other punters in general would give me all sorts of other answers, including she should be paying me! You are right, I was wrong to question my original thought.