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[Kinkajou]

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[Pedro]

Tough call.

[Strawberryblonde]

This situation requires honesty and trust.

[sarahxxx]

End it or she has to stop being an escort, which she may agree to but carry on doing as you only found out by catching her out.

How old is she?

I really do not see how you can continue in this relationship, it is causing you untold stress and depression.

As for trust, well she obviously has been lying to you, as you did not know what she was doing

Sarah x x x

[Kinkajou]

End it or she has to stop being an escort, which she may agree to but carry on doing as you only found out by catchinger out.

How old is she?

I really do not see how you can continue in this relationship, it is causing you untold stress and depression.

As for trust, well she obviously has been lying to you, as you did not know what she was doing

Sarah x x x

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she is 25. Yes my concern is the fact that she covered it up from me before so I can't help but lack trust when it comes to this line of work. I genuinely believe she will give it up to build a life with me but the worry is that every time we're a bit short on finances she's going to turn to this be behind my back. 

Dont get me wrong, in have nothing against this profession and think if a woman is single or if her spouse is accepting of it then good on her and it offers far better prospects than working a menial job for someone. But I can't accept it, as much as I've tried to convince myself otherwise. [/color]

[color=rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.701961)]I also feel that the stress and emotional pain of breaking up with her would be worse than the stress of now, because I still love her and It would be even more stressful to know that she is doing these things but I'm not part of her life at all.[/color]
[color=rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.701961)]Just feels like I'm sharing my girlfriend.[/color]

[Strawberryblonde]

The expectation that she'll quit, is a big pressure and what if she doesn't?

[Nova70]

This is one of those suspicious threads on a subject we see a little to often on forums but OK I'll play along.............

So you found out when you returned home unexpectedly and she came downstairs dressed in sexy lingerie with another man, now I'm not a violent or aggressive bloke but I think I may just of wanted a little chat with him, so what did he say that he was just a plumber checking her pipes, the scenario sounds a little bit unreal to me, the idea that she was working knowing there was a possibility you may turn up seems very odd.

But if it is true then she's taking you for an idiot isn't she, I'm sorry but people who tell lies and keep secrets about one matter will do so about others and that's not a good thing in relationships, it is a job like any other but it's honesty that's the real issue here.

[Kinkajou]

Why would I lie about something like this? Believe me every word of it is real. I. Not an aggressive guy at all. And the way it went was that I was meant to be home later but got an earlier bus without telling her, I then got home, called hi as I walked upstairs, to which she panicked and told me to wait downstairs. I knew immediately what was going on as she made me aware she was already involved in this line of work, though I was led to believe she was running an agency, so I knew that it wasn't the guys fault at all. I went downstairs, waited for him to leave without looking at him and then that's when I went mad.