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curlytots · (This post was last modified: 17-10-2012, 05:52 by curlytots.)

Is it just me or do a large proportion of guys really think they're on some kinda fucked up dating website?

It's unreal, lol, I have felt a bit sorry / bad for them - however, some days I am just pure straight with them (especially if it's an e-mail from a no-feedbacker that thinks we're the match made in heaven) but obviously with the ones who book you kinda have to let them believe in the fantasy to an extent?

It's a difficult one to call. Be interested to hear other girls' views and how they deal with all those potential 'boyfriend' wannabes!

xx

P.S. I am only referencing webcam/phone chat bookings, but obviously I guess this applies to escorts too!

sarahxxx · 17-10-2012, 10:11

In search of their "Pretty Woman"

Sarah x x x

Trinity-Belle · 17-10-2012, 10:45

Yes... you are right... it does extend to Escorting too!

It's not unusual to have a guy "fall in love" with you.

I try to be clear and make sure they know that it is a paid encounter and if they weren't giving me money then they wouldn't be there, but I do try to do it in a fairly subtle way and be "nice" about it. But sometimes it does get to the point where you just have to be blunt with them and occasionally I have ended up cutting guys off.

But for the most part I think they are just living the fantasy - it is what they pay us for, after all - in Escorting at least. They pay for a "girlfriend experience" and that is exactly what they get... but only until their time is up... and most guys do realise that. They just choose to "suspend disbelief" for an hour or so.

I think guys sometimes fail to realise that they only ever see us at our best, and that is what makes it easy for them to "fall in love" with us. We are always happy and bubbly and we listen to their gripes and moans and agree with everything they say and giggle at their little jokes... tell them what terrific lovers they are and make all the right noises in the bedroom (even if we are thinking "On my! There's a cobweb up there... must deal with that when this guy leaves - before the next one gets here"). They never see us when we are feeling like poo, or first thing in the morning with runny eye make-up and bed hair. We will never argue with them about the rent nor who is going to collect the children from school next Friday. We never refuse to have sex because we have just had a long knackering day and all we want to do is go to sleep. And we will certainly never complain that they just don't pay us the attention we need/want/deserve or that they didn't notice we had our hair done.

It must be very easy to fall in love with a girl like that... don't you think?

iluvjem · 17-10-2012, 14:06

I get it all the time which is weird as it's not a secret I am married... Rolleyes

I also get extreme "eye rolls" for the ones that assume they are awesome for you and you will love them...not that you ever get a say in that Rolleyes

Simon · 17-10-2012, 15:23

I haven't tried match.com, but I did try AdultFriendFinder for awhile. It never worked, there are simply not enough women out there who are prepared to give casual sex for free.

At least we actually get to meet women through AW. Maybe some guys feel that at least this is an improvement: even if their advances get turned down 99.9% of the time, there is still hope, and they can have fun while they are trying. It beats seding out hundreds of messages and getting no replies.

Hopefully they will eventually realise that this is actually better in some ways. I don't have to worry that I haven't been giving my "girlfriends" enough attention, or that they might dump me for another man, or that they might get peeved about me seeing other women, or refusing to leave my wife and kids.

sarahxxx · 18-10-2012, 00:18

(17-10-2012, 14:06)iluvjem Wrote: I get it all the time which is weird as it's not a secret I am married...

You and me both, but I did used to have a guy that brought me my favourite perfume every month, so not all bad

Sarah x x x

curlytots · 18-10-2012, 00:44

The drunk ones are the worst, in my experience. They start sobering up and realising how much they've spent...

Last night I was with this guy and he was like, but I've spent 'x' amount of pounds on you tonight (when I said the booking time was up). I let him run over by 5 mins, which in a 15 booking is a long time.

I just feel like saying, well yeah, that's the point pal. I am a sex worker. Not your fuck buddy!

Classy_Katy · 18-10-2012, 06:45

Yes this happens to me too...they make a point of saying they're single or that they live near me, and ask if I'm single too.

greeneyes · 28-10-2012, 17:41

You may all be surprised in that case. I know of a few girls on AW who have met their partners through punting. One central London girl still has her profile and she occasionally does a webcam show but no longer escorts since her ex-punting boyfriend says no. There are two other instances I am aware of since I was friends with the girls in both cases.

I had a couple of months relationship with an agency girl off AW. It was difficult to reconcile to begin with since we went on chaste dates to start with like anybody starting a fresh relationship would do. Like a lunch or a walk in the park. The strange thing is I was never jealous once despite the fact she continued to take bookings. Always thought I would be jealous, but affection trumps sex so it didn't bother me.

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