10-06-2012, 11:56
OK, this is perhaps really random thoughts straight out of my head rather than a specific question but it would be interesting to hear other peoples comments etc. (The trigger for this is that I met a new client recently who asked a very simple question – would it be easier if you [i.e me aka friendly accountant] was involved with somebody in the industry?)
We had finished talking about the business side of our meeting and where just talking generally about life etc and she asked if I was single… hence the question.
A bit or preamble first so you now where I am coming from:
Whilst I appreciate that I am not as directly involved in the industry as all you ladies are, I have a very significant number of clients in the industry (some are very high profile) and I have become very good friends with a fair few.
Sometimes you just click with a person and a true friendship develops. I go out with a lot of clients on purely a social basis (some are single, some are attached). Usually where they are attached, the partner will come along as well as we all get on. I am also privy to a lot of things that perhaps their non industry friends aren’t.
I also have a lot of non industry clients who I will socialise with as well.
Irrespective of what they do for a living, certain professional boundaries have to be put up when the need arises. That’s pretty obvious really, but some people can’t mix the two.
My last two personal partners had “issues” with some of my adult industry client base. Needless to say they are now history for a number of reasons, one of them being the “issues”.
Whilst some of my non industry friends may know that I have clients in the adult industry (I never divulge names or locations – client confidentiality and all that good stuff), I sometimes feel that are sniggering at me behind my back.
If I meet anybody on a personal basis, I usually drop into the conversation that I have a niche client base and then see what happens. Some peoples expressions and reactions are priceless!
At the end of the day – am I bothered what they think? Hell no! I am big enough and ugly enough to not give a damn what people think – they are bigoted and that’s that.
Preamble over....
So – some questions:
Have you found that your own social circle has changed because you are now working in this industry – I am mainly referring to non industry friends who suddenly have issues with what you do for a living? Are they still friends?
Do your friends know what you do for a living? Approve / disapprove / don’t care?
Does your partner tolerate or fully support you (if appropriate)
If you are single, how do you address the issue of your work with any potential suitors? Do you only “date” people in the industry to avoid any awkwardness?
I suppose this all revolves around our current Society’s viewpoint on people in this industry – how has it affected you personally?
Maybe there’s no right answer, maybe I am talking crud… I have always been very open minded right from a very young age. Other people are not so….
Whom is right or do people agree to disagree?
Your thoughts / ideas / experiences welcome…….
We had finished talking about the business side of our meeting and where just talking generally about life etc and she asked if I was single… hence the question.
A bit or preamble first so you now where I am coming from:
Whilst I appreciate that I am not as directly involved in the industry as all you ladies are, I have a very significant number of clients in the industry (some are very high profile) and I have become very good friends with a fair few.
Sometimes you just click with a person and a true friendship develops. I go out with a lot of clients on purely a social basis (some are single, some are attached). Usually where they are attached, the partner will come along as well as we all get on. I am also privy to a lot of things that perhaps their non industry friends aren’t.
I also have a lot of non industry clients who I will socialise with as well.
Irrespective of what they do for a living, certain professional boundaries have to be put up when the need arises. That’s pretty obvious really, but some people can’t mix the two.
My last two personal partners had “issues” with some of my adult industry client base. Needless to say they are now history for a number of reasons, one of them being the “issues”.
Whilst some of my non industry friends may know that I have clients in the adult industry (I never divulge names or locations – client confidentiality and all that good stuff), I sometimes feel that are sniggering at me behind my back.
If I meet anybody on a personal basis, I usually drop into the conversation that I have a niche client base and then see what happens. Some peoples expressions and reactions are priceless!
At the end of the day – am I bothered what they think? Hell no! I am big enough and ugly enough to not give a damn what people think – they are bigoted and that’s that.
Preamble over....
So – some questions:
Have you found that your own social circle has changed because you are now working in this industry – I am mainly referring to non industry friends who suddenly have issues with what you do for a living? Are they still friends?
Do your friends know what you do for a living? Approve / disapprove / don’t care?
Does your partner tolerate or fully support you (if appropriate)
If you are single, how do you address the issue of your work with any potential suitors? Do you only “date” people in the industry to avoid any awkwardness?
I suppose this all revolves around our current Society’s viewpoint on people in this industry – how has it affected you personally?
Maybe there’s no right answer, maybe I am talking crud… I have always been very open minded right from a very young age. Other people are not so….
Whom is right or do people agree to disagree?
Your thoughts / ideas / experiences welcome…….