Discounts and disconcerted punters

[SassyAnn]

I was thinking about discounts today, in a bizarre fashion.
Would you think of giving 'frequent shagger' discounts? I know some girls do.

However, what if it was performance related discounts?

I mean, it might encourage guys to learn how to read different women's bodies and see how they react. It might also stop all the orgasmic play acting from some girls. But would it actually make the interaction on the booking any better or would it lead to frustration and disappointment.

I imagine there would be a huge number of disappointed people around. Guys who are giving it their all, and then a girl says - it was OK but you can do with improvement, sorry no discount. So their illusions are shattered and little Johnny may never show his head again.

Ramble, ramble....

[English Kate]

I did used to offer £10 discount to regulars and you had to see me at least once a month and 3 times before you qualified. Funnily enough a few weeks after I had abolished this (due to the costs of my apartment) a chap jovially asked while walking out of my door if he was now classed as a regular and would get discount. I told him I no longer did that to which he said that he would not be seeing me again.

To be honest, with bringing up a topic such as discount for being a regular in the hall way I was not too upset at losing a potential regular.

Performance related?? Absolutely not! In all seriousness a lot of the guys I see have been made to feel pretty crap sexually from their other halves and the last thing they need is for me to start judging them. I'd much rather give them guidance a little by little over time and hopefully they will learn some skills that at least make me happy and leave it at that. Don't forget. What works for you, may not work for another lady, so it is a little presumptious to indicate they are great at doing something universally just because it works for you. One obvious comparison for this would be anal. If a chap you have seen and enjoyed anal with tried to do the same with me, he would not get the favourable reaction he would be expecting let alone rewarded for it.

[SassyAnn]

No, it would still be a normal booking so looking at each other's preference. As I say, they would need to learn how to read different women's bodies. I know my reactions would be totally different to anyone elses.

So maybe a sex school would then be in order.

[Nick Meanswell]

Did anyone see the news story this week about the guy who used his mobile phone to film him and his girlfriend having sex?

The funny thing was that he was a time and motion expert and he had analysed how much time he spent pleasuring his girl friend and how much penetrating. She hadn't known he was filming it, but she found it afterwards and reported him for being a pervert. The court let him off saying that the video wasn't sexy, and he was obviously just a bit strange in applying time and motion rules in the circumstances. Not surprisingly he is not seeing his erstwhile girlfriend anymore!

[SassyAnn]

He would have been better learning to read her body signals!

[Nick Meanswell]

He would have been better learning to read her body signals!

Not sure body language applies to the science of time and motion - I wonder if he counted the number of times he thrust into her. Bet he entered it into a graph afterwards too!

[davidseven]

No, it would still be a normal booking so looking at each other's preference. As I say, they would need to learn how to read different women's bodies. I know my reactions would be totally different to anyone elses.

So maybe a sex school would then be in order.

I'm afraid that sexual surrogacy is still looked upon by our society as prostitution under another name. Other countries have a more enlightened attitude.
http://www.surrogatetherapy.org/index.html



As for that time and motion chap. No sympathy for the idiot I'm afraid.
One wonders what sort of relationship he had when he could break trust and consent
with such abandon, and on such a narcissistic excuse.

[English Kate]

we already agreed about the idea of a school being needed Ann, although previously it was a school for Escorts, but the same applies to the clients.

You definitely can't vocalise that you are giving out rewards for good sex though, as the guys that did not get the reward would not bother coming back, they would assume the problem was on your side, perhaps leave bad feedback and just move on.

Having said that, I do have some chocolate money at my apartment and have been known to give one for each orgasm I get. I've only done it once as a fun thing to do on an overnight booking and I believe he got 5. *chuckles*. I'm not sure he worked any harder for the chocolate mind, I think he was more enjoying making me squeak.

[SherriffStiffy]

Quoting LOLO from the 'Is age important?' thread
"every woman's body & how they liked to be touched, is different"

So while we may think a Sex School is a good idea, you could only teach what 'works' for you. Part of the great joy of meeting new people is working out what works for both of you. Communication is the first thing to work out, I have known 'blokes' who would not even know why they were being given the coins from Kate! (We can be seriously stupid us blokes!) And I have known women (working and not) who 'fake', which while understandable for WGs, this is just stupid for a 'lover' as it gives out totally the wrong message! (Bloke 'thinks' "Oh I will do that again, it obviously worked!" = RELATIONSHIP DISASTER! (It certainly fucked my marriage up, took FOUR years for her to tell me she had 'faked' and another TEN till I could give her the pleasure she deserved!))
As for being a 'good' lover, being a diligent partner helps. As anything in life you can read up on the theory, but nothing beats the 'practical' work for learning what works in THAT PARTICULAR RELATIONSHIP. Try things, and talk about them, it is all good if you listen as well as talk! It takes a great deal of effort, from two people, to make a relationship work, and communication is the key, be it spoken, written or just touches, grunts and groans, communication is KING! So each of you can try something, and in a 'good' relationship you need fear no criticism, but be generous with the praise for 'a job well done'.
So that brings me to 'frequent shagger' or 'performance related' discounts. How are you going to measure the 'performance'? What is frequent? How much discount? I know some girls say rates are non-negotiable, but some give discount for 'regulars' BUT performance? What ever next!
I suppose it all comes back to the main point for me, it is all about what works for you! It is your body Ann, you should know it best, so go with whatever is right to you!
Or not, your choice.

[English Kate]

Quoting LOLO from the 'Is age important?' thread
"every woman's body & how they liked to be touched, is different"

So while we may think a Sex School is a good idea, you could only teach what 'works' for you. Part of the great joy of meeting new people is working out what works for both of you. Communication is the first thing to work out, I have known 'blokes' who would not even know why they were being given the coins from Kate! (We can be seriously stupid us blokes!) And I have known women (working and not) who 'fake', which while understandable for WGs, this is just stupid for a 'lover' as it gives out totally the wrong message! (Bloke 'thinks' "Oh I will do that again, it obviously worked!" = RELATIONSHIP DISASTER! (It certainly fucked my marriage up, took FOUR years for her to tell me she had 'faked' and another TEN till I could give her the pleasure she deserved!))
As for being a 'good' lover, being a diligent partner helps. As anything in life you can read up on the theory, but nothing beats the 'practical' work for learning what works in THAT PARTICULAR RELATIONSHIP. Try things, and talk about them, it is all good if you listen as well as talk! It takes a great deal of effort, from two people, to make a relationship work, and communication is the key, be it spoken, written or just touches, grunts and groans, communication is KING! So each of you can try something, and in a 'good' relationship you need fear no criticism, but be generous with the praise for 'a job well done'.
So that brings me to 'frequent shagger' or 'performance related' discounts. How are you going to measure the 'performance'? What is frequent? How much discount? I know some girls say rates are non-negotiable, but some give discount for 'regulars' BUT performance? What ever next!
I suppose it all comes back to the main point for me, it is all about what works for you! It is your body Ann, you should know it best, so go with whatever is right to you!
Or not, your choice.

*coughs* No they wouldn't with me as I am a good communicator and told the client exactly what the coins were for and how he could earn some. Then after every orgasm I told him he had earned another coin. It actually became quite erotic in itself.

Of course I made him work hard to earn them. I certainly was not going to give them away and I NEVER fake!