deeper relationship

[razzar]

What do clients, or providers do when they meet someone during the course of work, whom they would like to know deeper than just the normal superficial level? How do you get from clients to friends--can the gulf be crossed?

[Laudanum]

It's not a line I cross.

[English Kate]

The best working relationships start when the booking is made over the phone and finish when they peck you on the cheek and say good bye at the door. These don't cross any lines and the friendship can develop naturally when you are face to face.

Sometimes you will find that you have things in common or you meet on a forum that can involve keeping in touch outside of bookings, but it would not be possible to maintain these kind of friendships with many people, so they tend to be few and far between and some ladies won't entertain that at all.

Relationships ideally between clients and Escorts should not happen, full stop. Most Escorts date away from work and some how cover the subject with their new intended and manage to survive it, but it's not a good idea to get involved with a client for many reasons, so perhaps best to be avoided unless both parties are single and no one to hurt but themselves should it not work out.

[digger1967a]

What do clients, or providers do when they meet someone during the course of work, whom they would like to know deeper than just the normal superficial level? How do you get from clients to friends--can the gulf be crossed?

Believe, me it is not easy!

[Tom30]

Yeah, it depends on if both of you are single.

Id absolutely love a girlfriend who was/is an escort. All of my ex girlfriends have been boring compared to some of the escorts ive known who ive got on really well with, i havnt dated a non-escort for 7 years now, really prefer being single than be with someone.. 'normal'?

[razzar]

Sometimes the attraction is not sought, but comes nevertheless and the 'line' is blurred. How can the provider know that the attraction is genuine?

[razzar]

Or you simply like each other and want to be social friends as well as occasional sexual friends?

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

The best working relationships start when the booking is made over the phone and finish when they peck you on the cheek and say good bye at the door. These don't cross any lines and the friendship can develop naturally when you are face to face.

................ and some ladies won't entertain that at all.

Relationships ideally between clients and Escorts should not happen, full stop. Most Escorts date away from work and some how cover the subject with their new intended and manage to survive it, but it's not a good idea to get involved with a client for many reasons, so perhaps best to be avoided unless both parties are single and no one to hurt but themselves should it not work out.

I am another who would NEVER cross that line. It is not an option. Our work is a business and a booking is a 'business transaction' and should be treated as such. Sorry I'm repeating myself from another thread.

Unfortunately when guys start to form 'an attraction' to a specific escort things start to change and usually not for the better. Some get 'protective' for us and try to save us 'from everyone else bar themselves' and this can be the end of the escorts business. For me it is at this time that the business arrangement has to be terminated.

[DivineMissG]

I don't like to cross the line - EVER - Not even for a drink or a coffee... This is where you enter territory outside of the 'business transaction' that is escorting.

The lines that will inevitably become blurred relate back to that 'business transaction' - as a 'friendship' with an escort, usually leads to the 'friend' feeling as though they no longer have to pay to sleep with the escort. If a lady is looking for a relationship, that's fine. But I know many of us are not.

This might be fine with some ladies - but not with me... I am happy to have a good working relationship with my clients but that does not mean I want to have dinner, drinks, or go to the movies with them unless money is changing hands.

I know, this makes it seem as though I am 'all about the money'... No... I just don't like the awkwardness that seeing clients outside of the boudoir (or the business transaction) leads to. I've been there once... Never again.

[Tom30]

Or you simply like each other and want to be social friends as well as occasional sexual friends?

Im a client.
If all the variables were right, ie you like each other a lot, baring in mind its typically the mans place to ask the woman out no matter what the circumstance is, id ask her if she'd date me - this is where extreme tact play comes in.

Naturally she will think youre trying to get free sex (its tradition: women believe most/all men are liars and after only one thing, especially clients who see escorts). So prove to her: take her out on a date, pay her for her time, dont ask for a discount (because of no sex). Show her a nice time, let your personality shine- let her see who you are just be yourself. 3 (paid) dates is plenty, if she still requests money to go out with you then you know 200% certainty shes not into you. Shes been playing you... the good escort she is, but dont let it get you down. If she likes you she will then ask you out for free. Bingo. Just whatever you do during the date(s) do not have sex or touch her sexually, even if shes gagging for it, shes just testing you.