Pregnant by a Punter?

[English Kate]

My ex was never a wkend Dad, he was based in Notts soon after we split up and I used to drive our son up there once a month and pick him up again after 2 days, then when he was 7 he got posted abroad and never came back. He sees him roughly 3 to 4 days per 18 months or when he could be bothered. Yes he did pay some maintenance, but that was because he forced me to go to the CSA and I got awarded just over the threshold which meant I was not entitled to any housing benefit or any other benefits for that matter and I was in my 2nd year of a degree. He told me to stop my degree and get a job, I refused and kept up the mortgage by working 2 jobs while looking after my son and doing uni full time. I lived on pro plus, but they were still the happiest years of my life. I couldn't have managed without my Mum's support, who picked him up from school for me, gave him his dinner and had him one night a week so I could work.

My ex has always put himself and his needs first and then twists things to suit himself when things aren't going his way. He is the only man who can make me cry (still) after 15 years of seperation and that is because he is the only man who can and often does hurt my son and that kills me. Another reason why I would not have another child with a man unless I was 100% sure we could survive together and be happy.