Advice for coping with a relationship with an escort?

[Jakey]

 

Hi there,

I am interested in hearing advice from people in a similar situation to me. I am in a relationship with a girl who I found out to be a an escort. 

I must note that I did not meet her as a client, I met her in a completely unrelated setting and I have never had any experience with the adult industry. I really love her and have known about her work for a number of months now, but I do face daily struggles in terms of coping with the fact that she is away in a hotel somewhere having sex with other men, and no matter how much you try to convince yourself that it's ok, and try to find ways to ignore it, it is so difficult for my mind not to wander into picturing certain scenes, and I often find myself looking at her AW profile, even though I know it's like stabbing myself with a knife and does me no favours. 

I'm 22 and she is a few years older than me, and this is my first long term relationship and I really want it to work out. Other than the problem we face with her job, we are perfect for each other. She is not in a position to be able to stop her work just yet and I do see the positive side to the job, but it's just distressing in terms of coping with the emotional side if that makes sense.

As you can imagine I can't exactly talk about this with friends or family, and they would probably have a bias against her which would be unhelpful. Are there any similar couples out there? If anybody has any advice they could lend me to help cope with this then it would be much appreciated. (Oh, and leaving her is not an option, I tried that and it only made me feel worse, I really want to be with her)

Thanks guys!

Jake