Doesn't Enjoy

[Trinity-Belle]

Has anyone noticed the "Doesn't Enjoy" tab on our profiles, next to the "Enjoys" list?

It seems to be a reversal of our "Enjoys" list, which seems a little ridiculous to me.

So the very first thing on my "Doesn't Enjoy" list is "A" Levels... because "A" Levels (at discretion) appears in my Enjoys list.

Also, there are things which I don't specifically put on my Enjoys list because I don't want to attract the kind of guys who are looking for those things as they are not my speciality... like BDSM and domination. But if a guy asks and his fantasy is not too hardcore for me, then I will take his booking. But now those things are specifically in my "Doesn't Enjoy" list, so presumably guys will just go elsewhere.

The alternative is that I add them to my "Enjoys" list, and then have to let people down when they contact me thinking I am a full on dominatrix!

Am I the only one who thinks this is silly?

I don't think I am because it is being discussed on other forums I'm a member of and no one seem to think it is a good idea... well, it is a good idea, but it has been badly implemented. We need to be able to choose what goes on our "Doesn't Enjoy" list, surely?

I've mailed AW about it three times now:

I have to object to the "dislikes" section you have added! It is a good idea in principal, but it makes a bit of a mockery of the "at discretion" option. For example, I have CIM at discretion, but when you look at my dislikes list, it says I "dislike" CIM! I don't dislike it, I love it! But I do reserve the right to refuse it to anyone who is smelly and unwashed or has warts or looks/smells/tastes unhealthy! Even French Kissing appears on there! I absolutely adore French Kissing... it is one of my favorite things! Just because I want to reserve the right to refuse it to someone who has serious halitosis does not mean I "dislike" it... but it manages to appear on my list of things I don't like? Can we not have a triple state check box in out enjoys list, so that we can absolutely rule certain activities out? I would, for example, want to rule our watersports and hardsports. The idea is a good one, but sadly it has been rather poorly implemented. Sorry to be critical.

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Hmmmm... I don't think they understood the problem... so....

Thanks for answering my question about dislikes, but it does not begin to address the problem. For example, According to my "Enjoys" list, I like "A" Levels (at discretion) but if you look at my "doesn't enjoy" list, it says that I don't enjoy "A" Levels! Likewise for French Kissing and, in fact, this is true for everything which has an "at discretion" option. If anyone looks at my "doesn't like" list, they will think I don't offer "A" or French Kissing. This could be very damaging to me as they are, in fact, central to my offering. But this new "doesn't enjoy" list is effectively forcing me to tick "A" Levels as well as "A" Levels (at discretion) just to prevent it appearing in my "Doesn't enjoy" list. Thanks for looking at this. x

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I really don't think they understand what I am trying to say... so today I have sent:

I don't think you understand the problem here! It is not about the difference between "At Discretion" and not, that is absolutely clear, although this new feature does make it less clear. The problem is with the new tab on our profiles which is next to the "Enjoys" list and says "Doesn't Enjoy". Just look at mine. The first thing in my "Doesn't Enjoy" list is "A" Levels. That is just silly... why would I put that in my "Doesn't Enjoy" list? You have to remember that guys will presume that we have made those lists ourselves. I would want to have things like hardsports and watersports in my "doesn't enjoy" list, but to have a list which is just the opposite of what is in my Enjoys list is, frankly, rather silly. It's a shame, because the idea is good. Everyone on all the forums is talking about this and no one likes it. Every one thinks it it ridiculous. There are lots of things I don't include on my Enjoys list simply because they are not a part of my standard offering. Guys are welcome to ask about them though. Thinks like BDSM and tie and tease... it's not what I specialise in and I don't want to attract guys who are specifically looking for these activities, but if someone asks me then I might do what they want me to do depending how hardcore they sound. But now those things are in my "Doesn't Enjoy" list, so guys won't ask.... they will just go elsewhere. But if I put them in my Enjoys list, then I will get guys expecting me to offer a full on Dom service, which isn't what I do. I would be better off just unticking everything and not using that feature on my profile because the alternative is to put things I don't really want to offer into my "Enjoys" list just to stop them appearing in my "Doesn't Enjoy" List. I can't be the only person who has pointed this out? It is a good idea to have a list... but we need to be able to CHOOSE what goes in that list! All it would take is for our selection panel to be a triple state tick box. Thanks for looking at this again. x

Is it me being stupid?

Do I need to phrase it differently?

Am I making a problem where there isn't one?