Advice for coping with a relationship with an escort?

[Jakey]

I know you did Jakey.

However, I did not.  You are so incredibly upset you fail to see what everyone is telling you.  I have given you the information YOU EMAILED ME for after hacking your partner's account in order to assist and throwing your toys out of the pram is not entirely conducive of being offered any further assistance.

Since you find people's views "downright despicable" then probably best to stop putting your hands into this particular fire, go away and get some professional help.  You clearly are unreceptive of ours.

I'm actually not that upset. I'm more stressed at the way certain people are scrutinising me, especially on tbe Saafe forum that we posted on. You referred to the query on there as something along the lines of 'a biblical epic that you couldnt be bothered to read' and everyone else on there was talking about me like I'm just a pest 'oh just dump him!' Etc. So someone comes with a serious concern and it just gets disregarded like trash, the girls posting there represented some of the most deluded views of sex and relationships I have ever seen. 

Maybe if the people who are disregarding me had their partners go out and do this without them knowing then they would think differently.

I'm being made out to be a big bad man, who manipulatea and controls my girlfriend and spies on her to keep her grounded. That is an absolute load of nonsense. As I said I support her very much and what probably hasnt been mentioned is all the good things I've done for her. 

like how at first I was pretty comfortable with what she did, I used to actually help out with her job, helping her organise her work space, getting out of the house for her because hwr only option was to work from home, I even sacrificed my own feelings for her safety, in that at the beginning I would often stay home whilst she was working to make her feel safe and protect her if it was needed. in fact I pretty much saved her life, or at least from a brutal assault, after she was attacked after setting up a booking, by a would be rapist at the door in the first 2 weeks since I found out. If it wasnt for me being there and chasing him off and getting her to safety then I dont even want to think about the awful consequences.

this attack really damaged her/us and she took a couple of months off whilst debating whether to work again. when she went baxk to work earlier this year, Its made me feel a lot more fearful for her safety which is surely understandable, and maybe the way I am is a reaction to these bad experiences, in that among other incidences, I had seen the worsr parts of the job fairly early on and I guess that has given me concerns. I guess its easy to judge when you're sitting behind your screen but without meeting me, or  hearing everything I find it quite stressful to be judged by people in a way that is simply not true.