Mistresses. Are they all hard nuts?

[peteraonfilm]

I've been wanting to try kinky, sensual and safe BDSM for a while now, and a lot of the fairly local dominatrixes seem to have quite a shallow personality. If you want to know where I'm from, I stay in Edinburgh. 

When you message them on any site, whether it's through their stupid ass AdultWork.com profile, Twatter, Fetlife, or whatever site it happens to be at the time, they either don't reply at all, or if they do, they talk back to you like you're a real piece of shite. Yet I'm actually complimenting them sometimes. But they're just like, "Whatever. I don't care!" 

Honestly. Are they always that 'familiar' with people they don't actually know? Keep in mind, they're supposed to be trying to get people to like, invest their oh so precious time and money into them. Right? 

Like, say you went to Tesco and the staff treated their customers like garbage, it may not put you off from visiting all Tesco stores, perhaps. But you'll probably just take your business elsewhere, if that's the case. That's why variety is always a good thing.

Some girls on Twitter say they do both findom and femdom on their profiles. But I think they could be lying. 

Findom is when you send money and gifts to these ungrateful sods, like I'm sure a lot of desperate dickheads do. Like, dude. Get a life. Or a girlfriend. Now. 

I've never really done that, because of their rude reception, or I just suspect that's all they care about. Yet on their feed, I know they don't like the company of men. They openly call guys worms, trash, losers, etc, etc. However, when I send messages to them, even after joining their OnlyFans, they don't acknowledge me anyway. Or again, if they do, they sound so ignorant and bossy. Not to mention, they put up in real life stories about their mental health, and how they tried to 'end it all' and shit like that. Already a huge red flag, in my eyes.

Now, I have a mild form of autism, but I'm not "retarded" at all. I'm not clueless either. I don't think these adult oriented sites are up to much at all, sadly.

I contacted someone on Twitter, and she replied with something like, "It's bad to message a domme without a tribute" and then numbering aspects of her reply. AKA, talking to me like I'm a stupid ass simp. Why would I bother sending X amount of money to a stranger online when, A, I don't know her, and B, when that would show my real name? And it's likely they just want money from people, with no intention of a session, and that's it. What are the odds they even do meetings? And in the COVID-19 era, nobody is allowed to do that legally right now anyway.

Meh. Some women are just ruthless, and it's sad to see that cloud my outlook on females. Even with new escorts creating memberships and the fake crap that keeps appearing, 98% of them are scatterbrained, in my opinion... 

What's next?

[XAmelia_SageX]

Let me start with stating that I'm sorry that you have not found a Mistress who could meet your needs.
On the other hand I think it is important to understand the difference between Findom, Femdom, Bdsm etc...
I agree with you that there is a vast ammount of "Insta Dommes" out there who think Findom is just a simple way of earning money.
On the other hand comparing it to "staff's politeness" in Tesco is inappropriate.
When you walk into the shop you don't see a member of staff pitching a sale of butter to you do you?
You look at the price of product and decide if this is what you would like to buy or not.
You don't stand there and have a discussion with a member of staff "I will pay for this butter if you drop your price by 20%" or elaborate why do you need butter wasting their time.
If a Domme has clearly stated in her Bio she requires a tribute it is your choice to use her services or not.
But again... When you decide to go to the cinema you pay for a ticket BEFORE you see the movie not afterwards. And tributes are just that...tickets for your movie.
On a subject of calling people losers, pigs, mutts etc... Time line post of twitter are designed to cater to wide audience (vast majority of Subs want to be degraded) hence "terminology"... When you approach a Domme in private is only acceptable that she addresses you as "Sub" and then asks you your prefered name (whatever it may be).
NO RESPECTABLE DOMME WOULD EVER CALL YOU RETARDED!
Respectable Dommes will gain your consent first! Don't be surprised if they will also ask for age verification (I always do!)

"Findom is when you send money and gifts to these ungrateful sods, like I'm sure a lot of desperate dickheads do. Like, dude. Get a life. Or a girlfriend. Now."

Don't disrespect other people's kinks! I'm pretty sure you wouldn't appreciate anyone calling you a" desperat dickhead" for wanting your ass "sensually whooped" for money right?

Having said all of this i hope you will soon find a Mistress you will meet your expectations ?

[peteraonfilm]

OK. Maybe the Tesco thing was a bad comparison. I just meant from the point of view of a customer in general, if you aren't being treated nice, you should walk. 

I didn't see anything about needing a tribute on her Twitter page, but I did contact her friend (another domme) on AdmireMe, and her profile was deleted thereafter. So what a waste of cash. She said she's starting up a Discord instead for gaming, on Twitter. They really should try to explain things properly in their bios, or consider starting up a site for that type of stuff. Wix is free, I think, so that way guys know what they offer. While they look attractive, I guess I need to stop thinking like that.

Like I said, it's not just dommes either. AdultWork.com is full of people that waste your time. I'm to the point now where I just visit saunas, whenever they're open these days. Not to mention, how are all these seemingly fake profiles getting verified? The site is littered with a lot of them. If I see profiles that look attractive, but they have 50+ feedback for DirectCam and no escort feedback at all, I reckon it's very likely that they don't even provide bookings at all (despite the escort box being ticked). And these aren't necessarily newer profiles either. I'm aware that bookings are barred just now.