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(26-02-2012, 15:39)pocketcalculator Wrote: [ -> ]Dude - I get the feeling there's something really bothering you at the moment, you're posting a lot about pretty much the same subject.

I agree! This is the third thread by Rod on pretty much the same subject. Same questions, just worded slightly differently.

OK I admit it I really do like an ecort girl who I have seen a few times. It is good cos she knows what I like and I know what she likes. Is it really wrong to like an escort girl for more than just sex? Is it also wrong to just see one girl you like and is nice to you when you have been scammed by 3 escort girls before or other escort girls charge a lot more money? If I am having fun with this girl what is wrong with that. You are all right I did not need to put the same post up 3 times worded a bit different. I have now taken myself off Adultwork for now and just been on a blind date with a girl my sister hooked me up with and I am hoping my ex may hok me up with a friend of hers for a date so things looking up for me.
Just to say that this escort I have been seeing told me the other day that she has a friend who is also an escort and has a long-term boyfriend.

Good - sounds like you're going about it the right way. This girl sounds like a peach compared to the others you've seen but you're wise to have a punting break and trying this blind date thing.

Of course it's not wrong to think of an escort as a individual person as well as the sex! If you've got something special with your escort girl then hopefully you can be open enough with her to talk to her about this. Honestly - just ask. If she's genuinely cool then she'll be straightforward with you but if it's clear that she's only interested in seeing you if you're paying then you'd do well to rein your emotions in a bit.

I'm a lucky girl... lots of my guys come back and become regulars, but I also see lots of newbies. My average week will normally consist of more newbies than repeats and I love both for different reasons.

I enjoy the thrill of meeting someone new, but I also like the familiarity of seeing someone I know, and to be honest I am always flattered when someone comes back time and again. I like to build a bit of a relationship and get to know the person a bit. We learn each others likes and dislikes and can sometimes get quite close.

BUT (and this is the relevant bit) it is always a STRICTLY professional relationship. They come here, they pay me, we do what we do, they go away again... and that is it. There may be some limited amount of contact between times, but not constant nor intimate and I most certainly never mix business and personal lives.

You do need to remember that if you are paying for a GFE, then hopefully you will be getting all the good bits of having a girlfriend without all the aggravation! lol. But it is a service she is providing to you and to hundreds other guys... don't lose sight of that.

(01-03-2012, 18:34)Trinity-Belle Wrote: [ -> ]BUT (and this is the relevant bit) it is always a STRICTLY professional relationship. They come here, they pay me, we do what we do, they go away again... and that is it. There may be some limited amount of contact between times, but not constant nor intimate and I most certainly never mix business and personal lives.

You do need to remember that if you are paying for a GFE, then hopefully you will be getting all the good bits of having a girlfriend without all the aggravation! lol. But it is a service she is providing to you and to hundreds other guys... don't lose sight of that.

Well said Trinity! x

Ugh - my turn to repeat myself, because I think I kind of asked this in another thread:

To not pay a customer any physical contact but still give him a pleasant time by chatting and being fun to talk to - is that a) still doing your job, b) sending out mixed signals, c) a bad punt?

I mean - had loads of visits with an escort last year and a lot of the time I'd go to kiss and touch her and she'd back off but be really enthusiastic about talking (and being serious, I'm not a gross looking bloke and always made sure I was clean and smelt really good for her). Thing is she had good feedback so I don't think she did the non-physical thing with everyone. So I tricked myself into thinking that she wanted to be friends. Of course - asked her if we could be and got a stock "But we are friends! (provided you put £150 on my table just so I can talk to you about sandwiches and things)", then dropped the "How about we do the friends thing without being physical and without the money" bomb and that was the end of our communication for good.

So - what actually is it? We had some BRILLIANT chatty fun, but not the fun that you'd look to a site like adultwork.com for. I am right to feel cheated, aren't I?

Do many of you girls have many appointments that are just chat and you feel you've given the customer a good service with that?

(03-03-2012, 21:44)bp95 Wrote: [ -> ]Ugh - my turn to repeat myself, because I think I kind of asked this in another thread:

To not pay a customer any physical contact but still give him a pleasant time by chatting and being fun to talk to - is that a) still doing your job, b) sending out mixed signals, c) a bad punt?

I mean - had loads of visits with an escort last year and a lot of the time I'd go to kiss and touch her and she'd back off but be really enthusiastic about talking (and being serious, I'm not a gross looking bloke and always made sure I was clean and smelt really good for her). Thing is she had good feedback so I don't think she did the non-physical thing with everyone. So I tricked myself into thinking that she wanted to be friends. Of course - asked her if we could be and got a stock "But we are friends! (provided you put £150 on my table just so I can talk to you about sandwiches and things)", then dropped the "How about we do the friends thing without being physical and without the money" bomb and that was the end of our communication for good.

So - what actually is it? We had some BRILLIANT chatty fun, but not the fun that you'd look to a site like adultwork.com for. I am right to feel cheated, aren't I?

Do many of you girls have many appointments that are just chat and you feel you've given the customer a good service with that?

In 5+ years what you describe has NEVER happened with me. I am an escort/prostitute and talking is not the only part of the contract once the money has been handed over.

(03-03-2012, 22:57)Lady_Lust_XXX Wrote: [ -> ]

(03-03-2012, 21:44)bp95 Wrote: [ -> ]Do many of you girls have many appointments that are just chat and you feel you've given the customer a good service with that?

In 5+ years what you describe has NEVER happened with me. I am an escort/prostitute and talking is not the only part of the contract once the money has been handed over.

Same.

I have a few regs for whom the whole chatting process is an important part of our time together, but it is not the "only" aspect, far from it, and it is their choice for it to be that way, not mine. I always try to lead because as a professional I realise that sometimes what seems like friendly chatter is actually masking shyness or nervousness. Even for a guy you have seen many times before. Some guys are incredibly withdrawn or socially awkward and I have to be sensitive to that.

So I figure it is my role to try and ease them past that and get them to a more intimate space, without being too pushy, but also without taking advantage of the relatively easy task they present me with of engaging them in conversation. It would be very easy indeed for me to let a shy or nervous guy rabbit away for 50 minutes then give him a quick blow job and send him away smiling! haha! But it would be incredibly unfair.

There is no doubt... for some guys talking and building a relationship of sorts is an important part of the encounter, but lets be honest, that's not the real reason for coming to see a girl, is it?

No, I would feel incredibly guilty if too much time was spent on nattering.

Having said that, if that is what the guy wanted, then I would do it. I am there to please him, and if that is what pleases him, then so be it. But he would have to expressly me tell me that he did not want anything more physical, and I would make it clear to him that if and when he was ready for a more physical encounter then I would be ready. And I would, in spite of that, try to lead him anyway... I would just be more ready to back off, that's all.

This kind of scenario is probably more pertinent to me than to most escorts because of the relative niche nature of my offering. Sometimes it can take a guy who has not been with a girl like me before a bit of time to feel comfortable and relaxed. So maybe I encounter this more than most? I dunno... maybe some other girls could comment on that?

So yea, if I am absolutely honest, from what you have said I would suggest this girl may have been taking you for a bit of a ride honey - sorry

xxx

(04-03-2012, 00:10)Trinity-Belle Wrote: [ -> ]

(03-03-2012, 22:57)Lady_Lust_XXX Wrote: [ -> ]

(03-03-2012, 21:44)bp95 Wrote: [ -> ]Do many of you girls have many appointments that are just chat and you feel you've given the customer a good service with that?

In 5+ years what you describe has NEVER happened with me. I am an escort/prostitute and talking is not the only part of the contract once the money has been handed over.

So I figure it is my role to try and ease them past that and get them to a more intimate space, without being too pushy, but also without taking advantage of the relatively easy task they present me with of engaging them in conversation.

I totally agree. I do find some clients are quite shy about making the first move, but I like to take the lead and move things forward in the right direction. I can chat for Britain and my clients seem to love that I am easy to talk to, but my clients are paying for more than just my conversational skills. If a client is a little shy, I will initiate a sensual kiss, after which, I'll take my client's hand and lead him to the bed. I'll strip him off and tell him that I'm going to seduce him. I've not met a man yet who has refused my advances!

If a lady refuses to take things to the next level and only wants to chat, she's definitely just looking to put in as little effort as possible. It's certainly not a signal of friendship or wanting a deeper relationship!

Ah, I'd figured as much. Thanks for taking the time to put down your thoughts on it, I always felt I was doing something wrong but knowing how you would start things off puts it all into perspective. Shame because it started well but I think she quickly realised I was a soft touch.