Mistress Justine!

[Pedro]

I have never been with a mistress or a dominatrix. Just thought I would try some tickling stuff.

Saw her on Backpage in the Edinburgh bit. Emailed her my desires which all the other gents do too. Says she does not like scripts and acted snooty. Most people would have just politely said they don't like it and not made a big fuss. I am perhaps being totally over zealous.

She later offered to meet me if she was granted full control. Sadly I responded with a cranky reply just as she emailed me back so I was 2 seconds too late. She literally replied as I pushed the send button, then I offered an apology. I cannot see her lasting long with that attitude, because what is wrong with sharing a fantasy? Mine sounded good enough.

Very unprofessional and cranky. A shame too - she looks nice.

[Ana_X]

You say you've never been to see a Mistress or Dominatrix, so it's probably fair to say your approach was that of a 'punter' rather than a sub/fetishist who'd gone out of their way to read up on how best to make contact with a Domme.

So, she tells you that scripts aren't her thing in language which is reflective of her personality - Remember you're speaking to a Mistress, not someone who is out to be a people pleaser, and you send her a snippy email back just as she was reconsidering and laying down some terms on which she'd meet you.

You blew it. Your fantasy may have sounded good enough to you - but if it's outwith a Mistress's limits or something which doesn't entertain a Pro Mistress you can be sure she'll turn it down. You don't even realise the honesty in this. She could have said sure and taken your money while faking being interested in what you'd said.

Anyhoo, without seeing the emails and deducting for myself where the interaction went wrong it's all a mystery. But I believe Mistress Justine is under guidance of Mistress Inka and if that's the case she's got a bright career ahead of her.

[Pedro]

Honestly, I get the same crap from escorts. I never click with hardly any of them. Maybe I am just a mug.

I honestly did not see a problem with my request, but there are others. I guess. Sigh.

[kinkydirtybitch]

Absolutely spot on, Ana.

It is up to you how you choose interpret a neutral response relaying pertinent information. It is not up to you, however, to specify how she 'should' and 'should not' respond.

It is the domme's prerogative how she wishes to operate; you two are simply not compatible.

If you are looking for something so vanilla maybe one of these escort mistresses might be more suitable.

[Nova70]

Well Justine's blurb is a little contradictory............"I prefer to act on impulse" followed a couple of paragraphs later by "But am most interested in hearing your suggestions and thoughts" but Pedro this really is a whole different ball game and given the nature of what's involved the comms with these SPs will have added significance and by arguing the toss your not going to come across as someone who will submit to her will and let her do her thing which is in essence the service she's offereing.

On a general point about snooty or rude replies to enquiries well I just think...........hey bullet dodged, if that's the attitude in comms what she going to be like in person..............and I leave it at that, don't get into email ping pong just move on.

[Pedro]

Unfortunately, I think a lot of people have an ego that is quite inflated. I'm not just referring to sex workers or mistresses, because there are actually a lot of really nice types in this sector, which means you know where your loyalty will lie with the nicer ones.

Rather, I'm talking about the whole world overall. Morons are everywhere. Nefarious characters do everything to make you feel low. Especially in this field. The more money they make, the more it seems to go to their heads. This would refer to a lot of the women with higher feedback. They've somehow fooled themselves into believing their popularity "status" allows for a picky, mean attitude.

Seriously, I've seen some really rough diamonds that made me feel like a piece of gum on their boots. Now, I am mildly autistic, but I know how to be civil towards strangers. I'm good that way. Even asking someone a generic question is met with (what appears to be) some hostility and confusion. They act more like prison bosses than people. They expect you to hand over your money and pump them, but the conversation skills aren't there, and you end up feeling awkward, if not unwelcome. The general niceness ain't there, in many cases. Hell, you wouldn't act like that to those who are a part of the general public or it'd be considered anti-social, so why do it in the sex industry? Honestly - I think they kind of enjoy making people feel small. They're quite shallow. You wouldn't think you were shagging a real person, the way some of them go on.

I just *KNEW* Sasha's Sweet Honey was another time waster; I've been sceptical of her since day 1. She acts all nice on the phone and stuff, which is fine, and gives the impression you want. But when it comes to the moment you should be seeing her, she'll try to change the time of the meeting or cancel the appointment, as maybe she was never interested and everything prior to this was a put off. The only reason I was interested in her was because she does anal.

Typically, she says it is for health reasons and that is a GOOD excuse provided it is truthful, until I saw all these threads on UKPunting about her playing people. Well, normally I'd never credit UKPunting with anything, but I see no reason to think they're all lying. So I cancelled her last week and made an excuse. I'd say fair is fair, considering she cancelled once before and 90% of the time, it's a chore booking her. Then today, I text her. Wasn't rude or anything, but she said she didn't want to see me. Now, is she really surprised that no-one thinks she can be trusted? Gee, it must be everyone else that has a problem and not her.

Believe me, I was very keen on seeing her, but I was tired, and after seeing all these accusations of her messing men about, I had second thoughts.

Well, today I seen a great sub girl in Inka's dungeon at Easter Road in Edinburgh. It's well equipped. We did tickling, and had sex, the latter of which I didn't know was on offer. Sadly, I wanked last night so I was unable to cum. The condoms she had weren't large enough either, as my foreskin is too big. It's been an issue for years where if I do sex vaginally, I feel nothing at all down there.

P.S. I like her, but it is £150 an hour, and anal is extra. It seems a wee bit much.

[Ana_X]

It's almost as though all the faults are everyone else's but yours, pedro.

Knowing of the problem with your foreskin for all this time, would it not have been an idea to find a brand of condom which fits you most comfortably and keep one in your wallet for any eventuality?

And it's not 'it', it as you say is actually 'she'. Escorts, Dommes, sub switches etc aren't objects, they're people.

[Pedro]

They're people? Cool. I didn't know that.

[JustineM]

Hello there,

If anyone is curious my reply to Pedro upon receiving a fantasy which I found to be very particular - down to the minute - was worded thus:

"Hello [name],

Yes, I have received all of your emails.
This is more of a hobby and less of a career to me though. I do it for the sake of my own enjoyment. The essence of it all to me is dominance - and thus freedom to act on spontaneity and intuition - and genuine submission. I'm not very keen on being given instructions or having to follow a script.
It seems that your desires are very specific. I'm certain Mistress Marilyn or Mistress Inka would be happy to oblige, but I must admit I'm not too keen.

Good luck with it."

I did not wish to cause offense, simply state my position.


In terms of what Nova70 writes I don't find the two statements at all contradictory. I do prefer freedom of movement within a session, but I do not act in spite of my sub. I strongly encourage dialogue and I'm interested to know about their preferences and limits, but I do reserve the right to refuse a session if I feel like our desires are not compatible.

On a different note; Pedro, when you asked for my website I informed you that it's still under construction. It's not supposed to be public yet, so I'd appreciate if you could take down the link. Alternatively you can refer to my Backpage ad which is where you originally found me.

[Nova70]

That's fair enough Justine it seems like a pretty straight forward reply, it's a shame your not seeing Pedro though as it appears he does need his bottom smacked.

Pedro you neglected to mention that Justine suggested alternative SPs and judging by your last post you seem to have taken her advice, so are you a convert ?.