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#1
Dear Friends

I post this message in order that you can help with your most useful advice.

Wife is a full time cam girl and has been for 2 years after I encouraged her to do this for financial gain as its her only form of income after having our child who is now 3. At first it was a turn on for me but the fun now has worn off. She claims she gets no sexual pleasure from camming but I don't agree. I believe she enjoys it sexually although she denies it and states it's still for financial gain because she still can't return to full time employment owing to cost of child care.

What I don't agree with is her attitude towards me when I ask why it is not permissible for me to seek physical pleasure from other women be it from the site or the general public. She says it's different from what she's doing because for her it is purely work and would see it as infidelity on my part even though I seek her consent and which she refuses.

I might add that on a number of occasions she has met with her male clients in my full knowledge and agreement, and although she says nothing physical has occurred and that her intentions are purely financial, I believe she is deriving some sort of sexual pleasure from the coffee meetings and webcamming. She says it's improved her self confidence.

My question to you is whether you think it would be permissible for me to pursue sexual pleasures from other women given I suspect the wife derives sexual pleasures from her clients although she denies it strongly. Do you see this as double standards and possessiveness on her part?

Regards

Atif
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#2
You words where you "encouraged" her , so I would say you brought this one on you yourself to be honest , she may or may not get pleasure , cum when on cam or with a client . For alot of girls it is ONLY work .

I wouldn't want my OH paying for it , he would get a swift kick to the balls lol , but that is only my opinion , I do get where you are coming from though !! She obviously does not want you to do it , so its upto you if you want to take this one step further , it could end badly , so be careful ...

Jodie Wink x
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#3
It seems a little daft for you wife to making money camming if you then go and spend it on other women? If she's just camming, then I don't see how you're 'entitled' to see other women. If you think she's actually having sex with clients, then that's a whole other discussion, surely?
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#4
(20-01-2015, 22:43)ATIF LATIF Wrote: My question to you is whether you think it would be permissible for me to pursue sexual pleasures from other women given I suspect the wife derives sexual pleasures from her clients

Why of course... What is the harm?

Stupid people ask stupid questions!

Your wife does what she does with your blessing and at your suggestion to bring money into the home as you are not providing for her and your child.

You are looking to go out and get sexual satisfaction from other women and in doing so are probably going to be spending money.

Sarah x x x
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#5
You say "She claims she gets no sexual pleasure from camming but I don't agree. I believe she enjoys it sexually although she denies it and states it's still for financial gain". So why do you not believe her? Do you have evidence to support those statements? It is obvious from this that you have no trust in your wife and expect her to lie to you - not a good basis for a relationship as mutual trust is the most important factor in maintaining one.

"At first it was a turn on for me but the fun now has worn off" - so for your wife this has always been and remains work but for you it was about fun and presumably some form of sexual kick. And now the fun from this has dissipated and you want to find sexual gratification elsewhere. So why do you want to go elsewhere? Sounds like your relationship isn't that strong anyway.

It is interesting that you are trying to use your thoughts of how your wife feels about what she does to earn a living to justify the actions you are taking. There is a psychological term for this kind of projection and thought process but at this hour it escapes me.

"She says it's improved her self confidence." So why does her self confidence need improving? Is it because you have managed to erode her self confidence perchance? Suggesting that you want to go elsewhere for sexual pleasure is probably going to lower her confidence even further.

Either go and do what you want to do and accept the consequences or stop whingeing!
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#6
Hi I am Maggie's partner and I encouraged her to escort and cam , we have been 100% open with each other and some clients she really enjoys and others its only the money, she will tell me the details of things that have given here pleasure and sometimes she needs to shower and vomit from the encounter. But because she does this job and gets pleasure doesn't give me the right to go with other women, that wasn't the deal.
She gets asked all the time for coffee meets and social drinks, but the rules are that she only meets as an escort for money and tells them that. anything outside this is the same as me meeting other women, so for both of us this would be unfaithful and we would lose the trust with each other.
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#7
I have to laugh at this, as you encouraged your wife to do this.
You wanting to go out and seek pleasure from another woman for your own purpose is selfish. Why can't you enjoy the satisfaction from your wife, after all you married her and produced a wonderful child together?

Women will do what they need to, to survive and becoming a mother only increases that survival instinct as they are also thinking of their child/children. I personally think you should get off your soap box and enjoy your marriage before you kill it.

Rant over Smile
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#8
Let's keep this real, this is only your choice & there is no point in asking any one else, considering many people would tell you the opposite of what they would do. Why else is there 'escorts'. Guys that enjoy sex with others or feel they need confidence, more in life or they feel neglected or cheated in their own ways.

At the same time, as a caring & honest answer to your situation. You say you encouraged her as it turned you on, why not try take the step further & try couples cam? Just a suggestion. Have some couples fun & find the excitement between you both Wink
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#9
(22-01-2015, 02:10)luv2fuc Wrote: Let's keep this real

That is a great turn of phrase and probably really depicts the type of person posting, he has no interest in what anybody has to say, he is a troll that gets off on stirring sh*t.

The only truth in the post is that he is probably married, the rest is just fantasy...

Sarah x x x
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#10
You need to trust your wife in what she says and listen when she says she gets no pleasure from it. It is her work, her job that brings money into the home. You seeing other women is for your own pleasure and is selfish. It's not going to do her confidence any good knowing that you want to see other women for your own pleasure. She is doing what she does to earn money. You aren't being fair to her. Only my opinion. I would tread very carefully, as if you do decide to see other women, there is a chance she may just end up playing you at your own game.
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