My first time, to nervous to perform HELP

[panzerstudio]

So true Annalise, we are human and yes men you like fore play as well
Next time I will ask to take it slow and tease me
that should help or maybe I should book a 3 hour booking, having sex with a stranger is all new to me

[jacon]

you have to face any movement and you want to learn how your goes your first time.so don't be nervous.

[aztek00]

Happens to me all the time mate (i'm a similar age), and it happened a lot more when I first started punting last year, it's actually very common. Nerves, guilt (if you're not single), apprehension, tiredness, could be anything. But the thing that will help a lot is just to forget about whether or not you're going to cum, and just enjoy the company, the feelings, the sights, smells...take in all your senses. And most importantly, stop thinking!

Also, you say you want to go back and prove that you're not completely useless. I think this is a bad idea as it will put more pressure on you to perform. Go see a different girl, and forget about proving yourself, be a bit selfish and let the girl do what she's good at. You can start giving back pleasure in a few months time once you feel more comfortable.

It gets easier, and better. I promise. Good luck with it and let us know how you get on.

[panzerstudio]

Thanks aztec good words
Seeing a new girl at the weekend and I promise I will not think
With me its always on my mind that these are professional ladies with lots of experience and what is going through their minds - I mean am I doing good or should we not just throw our thoughts away, its not easy.

[Freddo]

It is not easy and the thoughts feelings never go away. i must admit I am in awe of a lot of ladies as they have probably forgotten more than I will ever know.

[zigzag]

This is the one thing that is stopping me from seeing an escort. I'm shy, nervous and self conscious and I don't want to fail under pressure, with a lady who's way more experienced than me. Especially if they aren't going to be sympathetic

[panzerstudio]

Hi zigzag I am the same but now have 5 lovely escorts under my belt, so to speak.
First time disaster, 2nd not too bad got some wood, 3rd fantastic took it slow had a nice talk to start with and I explained I get nervous which effects my performance and she was lovely.
The last girl was the best so far she really enjoyed her job and liked to work up slowly like a nice shower together and a talk over a glass of wine

I still get shy and nervous to the point I want to cancel but if you let the lady know how you get if she's nice she will understand and it will be a fantastic experience, now I can not get enough, just be yourself and be honest with the lady

Yes she properly is experienced but also has properly had worse so don't worry about it

[Freddo]

Its great to see you got your first real punt under your belt the last one sounds a real gem mate

[Trinity-Belle]

Yes she properly is experienced but also has properly had worse so don't worry about it

Well, it is in the nature of what we do that we are probably some of the most experienced girls on the planet!

And it is also true that we have almost certainly seen it all before... shy and/or nervous guys, first timers, guys who find it difficult to gets or stay hard, guys who can't cum, guys who go limp as soon as the condom goes on... and a million other things besides.

So the advice to just not worry about it is the best. We don't expect much of you - just that you are decent people, or at least not unpleasant! Beyond that, we can deal with pretty much anything.

But do let the lady know how you are feeling... most girls will be extra gentle with you if they know you are nervous.

[hornynomad]

I have to say that this happens to me quite frequently, unfortunately! Whether it's age, the circumstances, the lady or just me I don't know. I remember seeing one lady who, like yours, was drop-dead gorgeous but was far too "mechanical" in her approach. I feel much better when I'm with someone who is more participative, in other words someone who, for the time you are with her, is the "gf" in the gfe! This means a lot of kissing, touching and foreplay rather than straight into penetration. Sometimes the most enjoyable have included no penetration at all, like my latest experience. The same lady a few days before, actually wanted me to go soft inside her, without cumming, as this gave her satisfaction as well. Since I get a lot of satisfaction from pleasing the ladies I'm with, I find that often I don't need to cum or even stay hard. The most important thing is that the lady truly participates and enjoys being with me as much as I enjoy being with her. In short, don't worry and just enjoy the experience - so long as you have found the right lady.