Infatuation/Lust/Love - How do you differentiate?

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

As the title says : Infatuation/Lust/Love - how do you differentiate between the three ?

I've been in all three situations at different times in my life and it is only now that I am older that I know the difference.

Which do I prefer .................... I don't know, they all have their benefits.

Infatuation ............. its nice but is not always reciprocated. Very often mistaken for love but its not till we REALLY fall in love do we know the difference.

Lust ..... well I liked that one because of all the sex that was involved with no real strings.

Love ............. well that came with my marriage. I realise now that the guys I thought I loved before I got married were really only strong infatuations. But I didnt know that at the time.

The Love I talk about is Love for a Guy and not Love for my children which is a totally different kind of love which any parent will know.

The love we have for our children is in my case anyway unconditional and never dies. The love for a guy .......................................... can go at any time and no one can tell if/when it can turn to hate or just plain die.

I'd like to hear others thoughts now ......................

[Freddo]

Sorry LL its way to deep for me but I really cannot see me loving anyone enough to want to spend all my time with them

I fall in lust with loads of different ladies some I have not even meet in person
I can also lust after the ladies that love to flash at me

Infatuation is following someone around like a stalker never done that either

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

Can't be that deep Freddo for at least we seem to think along the same lines, except for the fact that you see infatuation as being stalkerish. I think you can be infatuated with someone without having to do that. Thanks for at least taking the time to put your thoughts down.

[lucy7]

I can be "in like, also "in lust" and "in love".
I am lucky to be in all of those with just one person!
I am very much "in like" and "in lust" with a few of my regular gentleman callers as well, but not "in love".

I have a few gentlemen who have become smitten with me in the paid sex world.
This past week alone I have one guy say he can not see me ever again as he has crossed the line with me and let his heart rule his head.
Another very good regular has told me that he loves me when we met up this week.
He is happy at home, so not a silly billy.
He just says he sees me as his lover/mistress.
We meet him as a couple as well but I mainly do very long all day and over night solo meets with him.
He knows my hubby and likes him a lot.

I wish feelings like this did not happen in the paid sex world.
I was thinking seriously this week about quitting due to guys crossing the line with me.
I am sensitive at times, even though I know I often come over on a forum has a hard nut.
I just can not bear the thought of the guys and even myself getting hurt.

Lucy

[monty69]

For me, I have had all three emotions at times in the past. I like to think I have got them all more or less under control these days. I would include a fourth which might be a combiniation of more than one of the above and that is fondness. Apart from lust with the ladies I meet, there is also a fondness that I have and hopefully have reciprocated.

I do try and avoid becoming infatuated with anyone; it is probably the most dangerous of emotions in that one of the outcomes is that you can become a pest. Being in love with someone is different and easier to deal with. Lust is what pretty much all of us have on here; that is what keeps the industry alive and vibrant.

Perhaps a little deep for a Sunday morning; thanks to my bad back!!

[kinkydirtybitch]

Infatuation is a quick, fleeting thing & love grows & endures over the years. We often mistake limerance for love.

[A Bloke]

I love the Mrs, and was in lust with the couple of girls that I see, but over time the couple of girls have become friends as well. I think that you are correct Monty when you mention fondness.

[English Kate]

I am fond of a lot of my clients. I like that word. I don't think I have ever truely been in love or been loved, but I suppose it doesn't mean it can't happen. I have been infatuated quite a few times and in lust many many many time. I think fondness and lust works well for me, so I'm happy with that.

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

For me, I have had all three emotions at times in the past. I like to think I have got them all more or less under control these days. I would include a fourth which might be a combiniation of more than one of the above and that is fondness. Apart from lust with the ladies I meet, there is also a fondness that I have and hopefully have reciprocated.

Monty I think you hit the nail on the head for more than me when you mentioned the word 'fondness'. Yes that is a very good word for how I feel about many of my clients.

I could NEVER use the word LUST or LOVE for a client for the time I spend with a client although it can also be described as personal it is also simply A BUSINESS TRANSACTION between two people (usually).

Any signs for me, of a client showing any feelings apart from fondness then I will not continue to see them. Sure it is par for the course with our jobs that guys can form an infatuation and in many cases 'cross the line' but it is our job to ensure it is quashed at the very beginning and if this doesnt happen to stop seeing the client. Not everything in prossying is nice and this is one of the situations we have to deal with that isnt. Well IMO anyway. Its not always nice having to say goodbye to someone you have grown fond of.

I'm glad others have the same feelings as me.

[Freddo]

I love your honesty LL

Your words Buisness Transaction that is so true, that is all it can ever really be between a punter and a escort otherwise it can get a bit strange. I know a very nice young lady that has a great saying for punters who start to go a bit strange on her

She says "I will treat you like a king all the time you are paying for my services"
That to me is honesty and the truth
a lot of ladies will be really nice all the time you can pay for there services